S3E9 - The Amateur: Reclaiming Joy and Pursuing Hobbies Outside of Work
The Intentional Fatherhood PodcastShow Notes
This week, we explore the importance of being an amateur, and doing things simply because you love them. In a culture that pushes us to monetize every skill and maximize every minute, many men have lost touch with hobbies that exist purely for joy. But God created us not only to work, but also to create, play, and enjoy the gifts He has given us.
We discuss the barriers that keep us from embracing this part of life, including the pressure to turn hobbies into side hustles and a world that values consumption more than creativity. Whether it's woodworking, cooking, camping, golf, music, or working on cars, these pursuits can provide the kind of rest, fulfillment, and connection that passive, mind-numbing entertainment often cannot.
We also talk about how hobbies can deepen our relationship with God, build community, and create meaningful memories with our children. As C.S. Lewis said, “Joy is the serious business of heaven.” This episode is an invitation to reclaim the things that make you come alive, not because they're productive, profitable, or practical, but because they remind you of who God created you to be.
This Week’s Action Steps: Reclaim one “useless” thing that you simply enjoy doing. Schedule play like it’s a responsibility. Invite your kids into it.
Intentional Fatherhood Retreat: November 12-14, 2026 in Austin, TX
Scripture Mentioned: Ecclesiastes 2:24, 1 Timothy 6:17, 2 Chronicles 9 + Genesis 2:9
Books Mentioned: The Supper of the Lamb by Robert Farrar Capon
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