
Show Notes
Have you ever had one hard parenting moment and immediately thought, "I'm such a bad mom"? I know I have. It's amazing how quickly we can go from, "Today was hard," to believing something is wrong with us instead of recognizing we simply had a difficult moment. In this week's Coffee with Heather mentor series, we're talking about one of the most important relationships we have—the relationship with ourselves. As moms, we're often so quick to extend grace to our kids, our spouses, and our friends, yet we're incredibly harsh with the woman staring back at us in the mirror. We hold ourselves to impossible standards, compare ourselves to what we see online, and believe the lie that we're supposed to have motherhood figured out. In this conversation, I want to encourage you to begin recognizing the difference between conviction, condemnation, and shame. We'll talk about why self-compassion isn't self-pity, how to quiet your inner critic, and how to replace the lies we believe with the truth of God's Word. Motherhood was never meant to be lived under the weight of perfection. God isn't asking you to be a perfect mom—He's inviting you to faithfully walk with Him, receive His grace, and extend that same grace to yourself. If you've been carrying around mom guilt, feeling like you're constantly falling short, or wondering if you're enough, I hope this conversation reminds you that your identity isn't found in one parenting moment. It's found in Christ. There is no perfect formula for raising kids, but there is a faithful God who redeems our mistakes, transforms our hearts, and walks with us through every season of motherhood. Connect with Kim Fredrickson:
Facebook: The Self-Compassion Club
Instagram: Kim Fredrickson (@kimfredrickson)
Connect with Jada Edwards:
Website: Jada Edwards
Instagram: Jada A Edwards (@jada_edwards)
Links Mentioned:
Give Yourself a Break: By Kim Fredrickson
Give Your Kids a Break: By Kim Fredrickson
Don't Mom Alone: By Heather MacFadyen
Related Episodes:
You are Qualified in Christ :: Jada Edwards [Ep 248]
Quiet Your Inner Critic and Practice Self-Compassion :: Kim Fredrickson
Remaining You While Raising Them :: Alli Worthington [Ep 420]
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