Show Notes
In this episode of Untidy, Matilda and Hannah are joined by Richie Hardcore, former Muay Thai champion, educator, and speaker on healthy masculinity, mental health, and preventing gendered violence. Richie works with young people, schools, and communities across Aotearoa, bringing lived experience and practical tools into spaces where these conversations are needed most.
CONTENT WARNING: Some of this conversation may be upsetting to some listeners. This episode discusses topics including family violence, sexual violence, pornography, and toxic online influences. Please take care and choose a time and a place to listen that’s right for you. In this kōrero, Richie shares his personal story of growing up around family harm, how he found resilience through fighting and music, and what led him to dedicate his life to cultural change. We talk about the very real risks facing boys today, from toxic online influences to the normalisation of porn, and how parents and caregivers can better support their kids. We dive into what healthy masculinity actually looks like, why role models matter so much, and how we can create spaces where young people feel safe to be vulnerable, respectful, and true to themselves. It’s a big, sometimes confronting conversation, but one filled with hope and compassion. Whether you’re raising boys, working with young people, or reflecting on your own journey, this episode will give you insight, strategies, and a lot to think about. References mentioned in the show: Richie Hardcore website: richiehardcore.com Richie Hardcore Instagram: @richiehardcore The Grace Foundation (support for people on bail) The Light Project (youth, porn literacy & relationships education) Before 16 campaign (advocating to delay social media access) InnerBoy app (Matt & Sarah Brown / She Is Not Your Rehab) Tricky Chats (resources for parents by Joe Robertson) Big Brothers Big Sisters of NZ (Youth mentoring) If you’re enjoying Untidy, the best way to show your support is by tapping the ‘+ follow’ button in your podcast app and subscribing on YouTube! That way, fresh episodes will always be ready and waiting for you. Help us to keep building this supportive community — share an episode with a mate, and chuck us a 5-star review — it helps more people find our Untidy, unfiltered, and relatable chats. Thank you for listening, contributing and supporting this independent production! We’re grateful to have you here! — Hannah & Matty xx Don’t forget! Untidy is made for YOU — the people right at the heart of this steaming hot mess! Follow the show and DM us on Instagram @untidypodcast or email [email protected]. Your stories and ideas to help shape the show! Find us online at Untidy podcast. Find Matilda at @matootles and get your copy of The Feel Good Guide. Find Hannah at @hannahedavison and her My Big Moments children’s books at @mybigmoments. Enter code UNTIDY at checkout for 10% off your order. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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Well. Here we are at the final episode of Untidy. In a glorious celebration of everything Untidy is, has been, and ever will be, we take a trip down memory lane to revisit some of our favourite moments, from Ben the Dentist, the pizza guy, misdirected shower selfies, playground feuds, poo stories, dating disasters, and the great UNO debate that's now part of our legacy ... We share messages from listeners who have laughed, cried, walked dogs, cooked dinners, raised babies, moved countries, and shared life alongside us over the years. This episode is a celebration of friendship, community, and the joy of finding people who you know are your people. Thank you for listening, for sharing your stories, and for letting us be part of your lives. Untidy the podcast may be ending, but once Untidy, always Untidy. Take care out there! Aroha nui, Hannah and Matty xxx Thank you for showing your love for Untidy. Tap the ‘+ follow’ button in your podcast app and subscribe on YouTube! You never know when something fresh might be ready and waiting for you! Be an active part of this community by sharing an episode with a mate, and giving us a 5-star review – it helps more people find our Untidy, unfiltered, and relatable chats. Thank you for supporting this independent production! We’re grateful for you! – Hannah & Matty Don’t forget! Untidy has been made for YOU – the people right at the heart of this steaming hot mess! Follow the show and DM us on Instagram @untidypodcast or email [email protected]. Find us online at Untidy podcast. Find Matilda at @matootles and get your copy of The Feel Good Guide. Find Hannah at @hannahedavison and her My Big Moments children’s books at @mybigmoments. Enter code UNTIDY at checkout for 10% off your order. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
This week on Untidy, there are still plenty of laughs, but this one's a rollercoaster, and we've got some big topics to cover. Bean shares the heartbreaking loss of her beloved dog Duchess, who stood beside her through some of life’s hardest seasons, and reflects on the grief and gratitude that come with saying goodbye to a member of the family. Matty has a wholesome family holiday to the Gold Coast, complete with some literal rollercoaster revelations. Then, all of us at Untidy have some big news to share. After five years of living and breathing Untidy, more than 200 episodes, countless laughs, tears, overshares, awards, live events, weird tangents, and one incredible community, it's time to bring Untidy to a close. There's no drama. No scandal. No secret feud. No tea at all (sorry to disappoint). Just Matty and Bean recognising that this beautiful thing has reached its natural conclusion. In this episode, we reflect on what Untidy has meant to us and the whānau that has formed around it. We're not quite finished yet. This isn't the final word. We want that to come from all of you, to be part of the final recordings. Send us your voice notes, favourite moments, memories, or messages so we can celebrate this perfectly untidy journey together. Thank you for being here. Aroha nui, Bean and Matty xxx Links from this episode: Our Pet’s Goodbye website @ourpetsgoodbye on Instagram My Big Moments – Goodbye Comet by Hannah Davison Thank you for showing your love for Untidy. Tap the ‘+ follow’ button in your podcast app and subscribe on YouTube! You never know when something fresh might be ready and waiting for you! Be an active part of this community by sharing an episode with a mate, and giving us a 5-star review – it helps more people find our Untidy, unfiltered, and relatable chats. Thank you for supporting this independent production! We’re grateful for you! – Hannah & Matty xx Don’t forget! Untidy has been made for YOU – the people right at the heart of this steaming hot mess! Follow the show and DM us on Instagram @untidypodcast or email [email protected]. Find us online at Untidy podcast. Find Matilda at @matootles and get your copy of The Feel Good Guide. Find Hannah at @hannahedavison and her My Big Moments children’s books at @mybigmoments. Enter code UNTIDY at checkout for 10% off your order. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
This week on Untidy, Hannah and Matty are joined by sisters Rosa Power and Margo Flanagan, the duo behind Two Raw Sisters, known and loved for their cookbooks and recipes, workshops, podcast and their Two Raw Sisters app. They're all about helping people bring 'confidence to their kitchens through time-saving recipes and food that fits their lives.' They chat about food, health, burnout, body image, motherhood, chronic fatigue, and why so many people feel overwhelmed by modern wellness culture. Rosa shares her experience as a high-performance athlete whose pursuit of success led to an eating disorder and RED-S, while Margo opens up about spending years bedridden with chronic fatigue and the path that helped her recover. Together, they explain how those experiences shaped the philosophy behind Two Raw Sisters and their systems that are helping to change lives. The conversation also explores feeding picky children, managing decision fatigue, nourishing yourself while caring for everyone else, and the genius concept of being "intelligently lazy". For anyone who has ever felt exhausted by wellness advice, struggled to prioritise their own nutrition, or wondered how healthy eating can fit into a busy life, this episode offers practical, realistic insights. Find Two Raw Sisters: Website: https://www.tworawsisters.com Two Raw Sisters podcast on Spotify Two Raw Sisters podcast on Apple Podcasts Two Raw Sisters App If you’re loving Untidy, show your support by tapping the ‘+ follow’ button in your podcast app and subscribing on YouTube! Fresh episodes will always be ready and waiting for you. Help us to build this community – share an episode with a mate, and chuck us a 5-star review – it helps more people find our Untidy, unfiltered, and relatable chats. Thank you for supporting this independent production! We’re grateful you’re here! – Hannah & Matty xx Don’t forget! Untidy is made for YOU – the people right at the heart of this steaming hot mess! Follow the show and DM us on Instagram @untidypodcast or email [email protected]. Your stories and ideas to help shape the show! Find us online at Untidy podcast. Find Matilda at @matootles and get your copy of The Feel Good Guide. Find Hannah at @hannahedavison and her My Big Moments children’s books at @mybigmoments. Enter code UNTIDY at checkout for 10% off your order. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
This week on Untidy, Matty and Bean discuss the emotional rollercoaster of ageing pets, how Matty’s renovations have pushed her to the brink, and the social politics of baby music class when harmonies are on the line. Bean’s dog-sitting side hustle keeps threatening to become a main-hustle, Matty faces public scrutiny on her design choices, and makes the grave mistake of sending the family CFO in to purchase her skincare. For the ultimate Untidy fans, there’s more waiting inside Totally Untidy, where Matty and Bean properly let their hair down with behind-the-scenes stories not fit for the main feed. If you’re loving Untidy, show your support by tapping the ‘+ follow’ button in your podcast app and subscribing on YouTube! Fresh episodes will always be ready and waiting for you. Help us to build this community – share an episode with a mate, and chuck us a 5-star review – it helps more people find our Untidy, unfiltered, and relatable chats. Thank you for supporting this independent production! We’re grateful you’re here! – Hannah & Matty xx Don’t forget! Untidy is made for YOU – the people right at the heart of this steaming hot mess! Follow the show and DM us on Instagram @untidypodcast or email [email protected]. Your stories and ideas to help shape the show! Find us online at Untidy podcast. Find Matilda at @matootles and get your copy of The Feel Good Guide. Find Hannah at @hannahedavison and her My Big Moments children’s books at @mybigmoments. Enter code UNTIDY at checkout for 10% off your order. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
In this episode of Untidy, Matty reports in live and literally on the ground as she hits the renovation pinch-point, Hannah’s under the weather and leaning heavily on the remedial qualities of Robitussin, insufficient sympathy, and homemade soup. The girls share a listener’s horrifying wine story, and a workaround for avoiding auto-playing your questionable audio choices in the car. Hannah shares a wholesome interaction and faces the dawning of a monosyllabic adolescent. As always, thanks for being here! Send us your weird interactions, accidental flirtations, awkward moments, and peculiar proclivities. We love hearing from you! For the ultimate Untidy fans, there’s more waiting inside Totally Untidy, where Matty and Bean properly let their hair down with behind-the-scenes stories not fit for the main feed. If you’re loving Untidy, show your support by tapping the ‘+ follow’ button in your podcast app and subscribing on YouTube! Fresh episodes will always be ready and waiting for you. Help us to build this community – share an episode with a mate, and chuck us a 5-star review – it helps more people find our Untidy, unfiltered, and relatable chats. Thank you for supporting this independent production! We’re grateful you’re here! – Hannah & Matty xx Don’t forget! Untidy is made for YOU – the people right at the heart of this steaming hot mess! Follow the show and DM us on Instagram @untidypodcast or email [email protected]. Your stories and ideas to help shape the show! Find us online at Untidy podcast. Find Matilda at @matootles and get your copy of The Feel Good Guide. Find Hannah at @hannahedavison and her My Big Moments children’s books at @mybigmoments. Enter code UNTIDY at checkout for 10% off your order. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.