Attraction & Relationship Psychologist: Obsession, Love Bombing & Why You Pick The Wrong Person!
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Viral relationship psychologist Franchesca sits down in this episode with Kash, spilling the brutal truths behind why you keep attracting the wrong people, teaching you everything you need to know on how to heal your attachment style, spot a soulmate, and finally stop self-sabotaging your love life.GET ACCESS TO FRANCESCA'S "FINDING LOVE" COURSE HERE: https://bit.ly/francesca-love 00:00 Intro00:45 Why The Hottest Girls Are The LEAST Approached02:11 The Nervous System Trick That Makes You Magnetic In Any Room03:35 The Identity Switch You Can Do Before Walking Into Any Room04:18 She's Hiding Her Attraction — Here's How To Read It05:31 The Unconscious Habits Women Do When They Like You05:52 Why You Feel Ugly Even When People Tell You You're Hot06:33 Anyone Can Find Love (Even The Toothless 60-Year-Old)07:52 The Drip-By-Drip Method To Open Up Without Getting Crushed08:51 Stop Trusting Your Partner — Trust YOURSELF Instead10:30 The Barista Habit That Will Rebuild Your Confidence11:13 Your Type Was Decided By Your Childhood (Not You)12:08 You Don't Attract What You Want — You Attract What's FAMILIAR13:00 Why You Should Date A 5/10, Not A 10/1013:14 What You Think Is Chemistry Is Actually ANXIETY14:50 Stop Waiting For Him To Change — He Never Will15:47 If You're Attracted To Your Boss, You Have Daddy Issues17:10 Should The Man Always Lead The Relationship?18:33 You're Looking For Your Dad In Your Partner19:25 Why Financial Dependence Keeps You Stuck With The Wrong Man20:32 50 Shades Of Grey Has Been Lying To You About Love22:47 Hyperindependent Women Are Pushing Real Love Away24:30 The Romanian Experiment Where Babies DIED Without Love25:22 Why You're Only Attracted To People Who Don't Like You26:29 Why You Keep Falling For Love Bombers (You're Starving)27:48 The Switch That Makes Any Man Respect You Instantly30:10 Your Brain Is Treating Him Like A Slot Machine31:46 The 4 Attachment Styles — Which One Are You?34:43 The 30-Second Test That Reveals Your Attachment Style36:53 Most Couples Are Trapped In This Hellish Dynamic38:09 Force Yourself To Date "Boring" People — Here's Why39:17 The Guy You Almost Rejected Becomes The Love Of Your Life39:59 If He's Not Consistent, He's Not The One41:00 How To Re-Parent The Hurt Child Inside You42:24 Your Whole Life Revolves Around Him — Here's The Fix43:44 Avoidant People Associate Love With PAIN (Here's The Fix)44:14 You're Not Healed — You're Just Hiding From People46:15 The Equation That Tells You To Stay Or Leave47:40 You Break Up First So He Can't Leave You49:00 You're Obsessed With A Fake Version Of Your Ex50:33 Hope Is The Drug Keeping You Addicted To Your Ex51:34 You Have To Grieve Them Like They Actually Died52:21 She Went Back To Her Ex On Purpose (And It CURED Her)53:35 You Can't Be Obsessed With Someone You Actually Know55:50 Your Crush Is A Mirror Of What You're Missing56:59 Unconditional Love In Romance Is A TRAUMA Response58:46 If You See People As Good Or Bad, You're Emotionally A Child01:03:00 The "I'm A Good Person" Belief Killing Your Relationships01:04:25 Where To Find FrancescaSponsorship/Speaking Enquiries for Relearn & Kash:https://www.kashrupareliaa.me/brandshttps://www.kashrupareliaa.me/speakingFollow Kash:Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/kashroffical Youtube - https://www.youtube.com/@kashrofficial Linkedin - https://www.linkedin.com/in/kashrofficial/Website - https://www.kashrupareliaa.meFollow Relearn:Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/relearnwithkash Youtube - https://www.youtube.com/@RelearnwithkashFollow Francesca: Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/francescapsychologyWebsite - https://www.francescapsychology.com/courses/finding-love?affcode=2643853_habhvuwzYoutube - https://youtube.com/@francitighineanSponsors:This episode is sponsored by MINDVALLEYThis podcast is being produced, managed and scaled by RISEVOICE. www.risevoice.media
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