78. Why Do I Get So Angry When My Kids Interrupt Me? The Neurodivergent Mum’s School Holiday Edition

In this episode of ADHD Her Way, clinical psychologist Johanna joined by Dr Emma-Leigh Senyard to explore the complex relationship between trauma, neurodivergence and the nervous system. We unpack why trauma doesn’t always look the way we expect it to, how chronic dysregulation can show up in the body, and why recognising our patterns and early warning signs can be so important, particularly for neurodivergent people who may not notice what their body needs until they’re already running on empty.

Have you ever wondered why you can thrive when life has structure… but completely unravel when you suddenly have too much freedom? In this episode of ADHD Her Way, I’m joined by TV presenter, Women’s Health Coach and founder of My Daily Ritual, Liv Phyland. Liv has spent more than 15 years working across television and media, alongside studying Psychology and Health Coaching and creating Girls Who Glow, Liv Your Life and, most recently, My Daily Ritual. We chat about Liv’s own experience of questioning ADHD and beginning to understand the way her brain works, including hyperfocus, time blindness, procrastination, perfectionism, rejection sensitivity and that familiar feeling of having a LOT going on internally, even when you might look like you’re coping pretty well from the outside. We also talk about the interesting relationship ADHDers can have with structure. Liv reflects on thriving in environments like television where there were clear expectations and deadlines, compared with the overwhelm that could come with freelance work and having complete freedom over her time. And then we get into purpose. Liv shares how her career has moved through television, working with teenage girls, coaching, wellness, building an app and now motherhood, but how there has actually been a common thread running through all of it. You can find Liv and My Daily Ritual via this link. You can find Johanna and her podcast ADHD Her Way on: https://www.holisticwellnesspsychology.com.au/adhdherwaypodcast

Johanna shares her personal journey with ADHD, motherhood, and managing capacity during pregnancy and postpartum, emphasizing self-awareness, boundaries, and seasonal self-care. As well as a pregnancy announcement!

In this solo episode, Johanna explores the often-overlooked experience of AuDHD burnout, including why so many neurodivergent women find themselves feeling "tired but wired." Drawing on both her professional experience as a psychologist and her own lived experience, Johanna shares how burnout can develop gradually through years of overcompensating, pushing through exhaustion, ignoring capacity, and relying on motivation to carry us further than our nervous systems can comfortably sustain. Using the metaphor of energy debt, she explores how many ADHD and AuDHD women unknowingly borrow energy from their future selves, only to find the bill eventually arrives in the form of exhaustion, overwhelm, sensory sensitivity, emotional reactivity, and reduced capacity. In this episode, you'll learn: ✨ What AuDHD burnout can look like in everyday life. ✨ Why burnout often develops even when you're doing things you genuinely love. ✨ The difference between feeling energised and overextending yourself. ✨ How ADHD impulsivity and novelty-seeking can contribute to energy debt. ✨ Common signs your nervous system may be carrying more than it can sustainably manage. ✨ Simple ways to support recovery, including rest, capacity planning, gentle movement, accommodation, connection, and rediscovering joy.

In this episode of ADHD Her Way, Johanna sits down with sexologist and therapist Hilary Lindberg for a nuanced and honest conversation about sexuality, intimacy, ADHD, Autism, desire, and relationships. Together, they unpack the myths many neurodivergent individuals grow up believing about sex and intimacy, and explore how sensory needs, communication styles, emotional safety, and nervous system regulation can deeply shape sexual wellbeing. This episode also explores the impact of shame, perfectionism, masking, religious trauma, low desire, vaginismus, infidelity recovery, and the pressure many people feel to fit into rigid “sexual scripts.” If you’ve ever felt “different” in the way you experience intimacy, desire, stimulation, or connection, this conversation is a deeply validating listen. 💛 • ADHD, Autism, and sexual stimulation • The difference between desire and arousal • Sensory sensitivities and intimacy • Why planning intimacy can actually help ADHD relationships • Asexuality and low desire • Religious trauma and shame around sex • Communication and flexibility in relationships • Rebuilding intimacy after betrayal or burnout • “Good enough sex” and removing perfectionism from intimacy • Supporting neurodivergent relationships with compassion and curiosity Sexual wellbeing is not one-size-fits-all. Understanding your nervous system, sensory profile, communication needs, and relationship dynamics can help create more fulfilling and connected experiences, especially for neurodivergent individuals. Psychologist, ADHD Coach & Host of ADHD Her Way Podcast 🌐 Johanna Badenhorst Website 📸 Instagram @johanna_psychologist 🎙️ ADHD Her Way Podcast You can learn more about Hilary’s work and approach to sexual wellbeing and relationships via her socials and professional platforms here