Show Notes
I thought it would be worthwhile to sit down and record a conversation with my wife. Jenny has been a marriage and family therapist for the last 20 years, so she carries a ton of wisdom. She's helped me understand the female/ wife perspective, and she's helped me grow into a solid husband. She's the best. If you want to hear exactly how we talk to each other every day, here it is.
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