#61 Single vs. Double Embryo Transfer in Surrogacy: the Risks You Might Be Overlooking - Dr Erica Bove
Surrogacy Made SimpleShow Notes
Should you transfer one embryo—or two? In this episode, Dr. Alyssa Small Layne sits down with reproductive endocrinologist and OB/GYN Dr. Erica Bove to talk about one of the most emotionally charged and medically controversial decisions in IVF and surrogacy: single vs. double embryo transfer (SET vs DET). From real-life patient stories to hard NICU truths, Dr. Bove shares why many doctors are urging families to think twice about twin pregnancies—even if they seem like the faster or more affordable option. You’ll learn about the hidden risks, financial trade-offs, ethical gray zones, and what ASRM guidelines actually say about embryo transfer in surrogacy cases. This conversation is especially important for intended parents considering transferring more than one embryo—and for those who think “more is better.” What You’ll Learn: 00:52 — What SET and DET really mean in IVF and surrogacy
03:59 — Why multiple embryo transfer used to be standard practice
05:49 — Does transferring two embryos give you a better chance?
07:29 — The financial argument for DET—and its hidden flaws
08:32 — The emotional cost of doing surrogacy twice
10:53 — What if each parent wants a biologically related child?
12:47 — Why OB/GYNs “twitch” when patients ask for DET
13:50 — The hard facts about twin pregnancies: early births, NICU stays, and long-term disability
16:14 — Why twins are medically riskier for both the surrogate and the babies
17:04 — What the ASRM guidelines recommend—and why
19:26 — What you’re really signing up for when you choose DET
20:02 — How embryo splitting can lead to unexpected triplets or quadruplets
21:55 — Real stories of selective reduction—and the emotional toll
23:08 — How medical ethics come into play when DET is requested
24:57 — When double embryo transfer might be considered (and who decides)
Resources Mentioned: Surrogate vetting essentials
BloomBridge Surrogacy App
ASRM Guidelines
Dr Erica Bove- Instagram and Website
Key Takeaways: SET is almost always safer—for the babies, surrogate, and your long-term outcomes
DET comes with higher risks: preterm birth, NICU time, and pregnancy complications
The financial “savings” of twins often disappear in NICU bills and long-term care
Your decision affects not just you, but your surrogate—and that relationship matters
You can still have two children—just not always in one pregnancy
Thinking about transferring more than one embryo? 🎧 Start with this episode, then download the ASRM guidelines and review your clinic’s policies.
📱 Explore BloomBridge for vetted surrogacy tools, smarter decisions, and support for both heart and science.
“You can put in two embryos and still end up with four babies. Are you ready for that?”
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