
Healing After the NICU: Processing Trauma, Loss, and Your Family's Story
Inside the Children's HospitalShow Notes
This week's guests, perinatal mental health therapists Emily Souder and Mahaley Patel, share the story behind their book Your NICU Story: Reflecting on Your Family's Experience—a guided journal created to help families process the emotional impact of a NICU stay. Mahaley also opens up about her daughter, Sachi, who died after a NICU stay, and how storytelling and narrative healing became a lifeline in her grief. She and Emily talk with Katie about why so many NICU parents carry trauma long after discharge and how writing your story can help families reconnect with what they experienced. They also discuss the emotional weight of making medical decisions during a NICU stay, the importance of compassionate healthcare providers, and why healing sometimes begins months or even years later. If you've ever struggled to process a NICU experience—or wondered how to revisit it in a way that feels safe and meaningful—this conversation offers powerful insight and hope. Emily and Mahaley's biggest message? Your story deserves space, compassion, and time—and reflecting on it can be an important step toward healing. We extend our sincere gratitude to our sponsor for this episode, Gebauer PainEase®. We are pleased to provide more information about this product, and we invite you to learn more by visiting their website. Resources & Ways to Connect: Book: Your NICU Story: Reflecting on Your Family's Experience Available wherever books are sold, including Amazon, Barnes & Noble, and local bookstores. Emily Souder, LMFT, PMH-C Website Instagram Mahaley Patel, LMFT, PMH-C Instagram Connect & Support from Child Life On Call: Subscribe: Never miss an episode on Apple Podcasts or Spotify.
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