Show Notes
Should you work with two surrogates at once? What does it take—mentally, emotionally, and logistically—to grow your family through a dual surrogacy path? In this vulnerable and empowering episode, Dr. Alyssa Small Layne speaks with Carly Joseph, a mom of two babies born via two separate surrogates just months apart. Carly shares what led her to pursue surrogacy after eight IVF cycles and six pregnancy losses, what it was like to walk two paths simultaneously, and how she now supports others as a surrogacy concierge. 🎧 Whether you're an intended parent exploring your options or just want to hear what resilience really looks like—this one will move you.
What You’ll Learn: 03:12 — Why Carly turned to surrogacy after years of IVF and loss
06:28 — What fertility clinics don’t tell you about the process
09:28 — What happened after her first surrogate’s pregnancy ended in loss
14:43 — Matching with a second surrogate while grieving and hoping
16:51 — The emotional weight of transferring embryos to two surrogates
18:55 — One surrogate pregnant, another on deck—when the timeline overlaps
23:30 — NICU stays, caregiving logistics, and becoming a parent to two babies
27:50 — The practical and emotional challenges of dual surrogacy
35:51 — What Carly wishes she had known before starting
Resources Mentioned: Surrogacy Step-By-Step Guide
ASRM Guidelines on 2 surrogates
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Carly Joseph
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