Silence, Stories, and Self: My intuitive path to parts work with Jessica Laurel Kane

On this week's episode I'm excited to chat with Dr. Carol Shilliday, a clinical psychologist, IFS assistant trainer, and author of the new book Inside ADHD: An Internal Family Systems Workbook to Understand Your Parts and Emotionally Thrive. We discuss ADHD, shame, acceptance, and keeping a spare set of keys. Takeaways Is it brain wiring or parts? Yes. IFS lets us stay curious instead of picking one "Am I ADHD enough?" Not struggling as much as someone else doesn't mean you're not struggling The compensation and anxiety link Traits that come with ADHD get labeled as character flaws: lazy, too much, not enough Overachievers, perfectionists, and maskers often polarize with parts that burn out or give up Strategies don't stick until there's acceptance Healing the shame makes room for what works Low estrogen lowers dopamine, so hormones amplify ADHD for women Advice for partners and mixed neurotype relationships Opportunties to learn from Carol Join Carol in February 2027 for IFS and ADHD: Clarity and Healing, a two-day online workshop focused on working with ADHD clients in neuroaffirming ways. Find Carol Website Book About Carol Carol Shilliday, PsyD, is a licensed clinical psychologist with over three decades of experience. She is an IFS assistant trainer, Level 3 certified IFS therapist, and IFS approved clinical consultant who specializes in working with adults with ADHD. She runs groups for IFS therapists and practitioners with ADHD and for those who want to lead their own IFS groups. She is the author of Inside ADHD: An Internal Family Systems Workbook to Understand Your Parts and Emotionally Thrive. Episode Sponsor This episode is sponsored by Souliology. Souliology offers retreats and immersive learning experiences for IFS professionals, many led by IFS Senior Lead Trainers and eligible for continuing education credits. Their programs support deep professional and personal growth, offering space to step away from the demands of daily life so you can return to your practice more present and resourced for the clients you serve. Souliology: Where growth meets depth. Learn more at souliology.com About The One Inside I started this podcast to help spread IFS out into the world and make the model more accessible to everyone. Eight years later, that's still at the heart of all we do. Join The One Inside Substack community for bonus conversations, extended interviews, meditations, and more. Find Self-Led merch at The One Inside store. Listen to episodes and watch clips on YouTube. Follow me on Instagram @ifstammy or on Facebook at The One Inside with Tammy Sollenberger. I co-create The One Inside with Jeff Schrum, a writer, producer, and IFS Level 2 practitioner who helps therapists, coaches, and teachers shape and share their story. Resources New to IFS? My book, The One Inside: Thirty Days to Your Authentic Self, is a great place to start. Want a free meditation? Sign up for my email list and get "Get to Know a Should Part" right away. Sponsorship Want to sponsor an episode of The One Inside? Email Tammy.

On this week's episode I'm excited to chat with Dr. Laura Patryas, a psychologist, author, spiritual teacher, and 2026 IFS Annual Conference presenter. We discuss non-duality, presence, wholeness, and Cabbage Patch dolls. Takeaways Honoring all of our parts while remembering the wholeness underneath them Every part has Self at its core. The burdens obscure it, but they don't change what's underneath Multiplicity and unity coexist--you can be a in part and be whole at the same time Tantra means to weave and to become whole--so does IFS Either-or thinking is often a burdened part, where Self offers perspective and choice My childhood Cabbage Patch doll burden is a lesson in non-duality Wholeness doesn't mean perfect Awakening is being present with whatever part is showing up right now Parts sometimes try to keep us safe from silence, stillness, and presence Presence is a birthright, and it's something you can practice and develop Three Fs: focus, flow, and feeling. It's a simple way to track how blended you are in any moment Therapeutic presence relies on something transpersonal Self leadership can be fierce and boundaried "You are loved. Every one of your parts is already loved." Here's a link to the Easing Back In meditation I mentioned. Find Laura Website | Instagram | YouTube | Facebook | LinkedIn | Substack | Books About Laura Laura Patryas is a psychologist, author, and spiritual teacher whose work brings together Internal Family Systems, nonduality, and embodied spirituality. She is the author of Awaken to Love, exploring how we can reclaim our wholeness and awaken to the love that is already here. Episode Sponsor This episode is sponsored by the IFS Institute. This October, join the IFS Institute for the 2026 IFS Annual Conference, happening fully online October 15th and 16th. Over two days, you'll hear from over 45 voices from across the IFS community exploring the theme of Self in Relationship: From Inner Healing to Collective Repair. This year's workshops will cover topics from clinical practice and emerging research to Self-leadership, relationships, culture, and the challenges we're navigating in the world today. Because this year's conference is fully virtual, you can join the IFS community from wherever you are. Visit ifs-institute.com/conference to learn more and register. About The One Inside I started this podcast to help spread IFS out into the world and make the model more accessible to everyone. Eight years later, that's still at the heart of all we do. Join The One Inside Substack community for bonus conversations, extended interviews, meditations, and more. Find Self-Led merch at The One Inside store. Listen to episodes and watch clips on YouTube. Follow me on Instagram @ifstammy or on Facebook at The One Inside with Tammy Sollenberger. I co-create The One Inside with Jeff Schrum, a writer, producer, and IFS Level 2 practitioner who helps therapists, coaches, and teachers shape and share their story. Resources New to IFS? My book, The One Inside: Thirty Days to Your Authentic Self, is a great place to start. Want a free meditation? Sign up for my email list and get "Get to Know a Should Part" right away. Sponsorship Want to sponsor an episode of The One Inside? Email Tammy.

Emma Coyne wrote over a hundred poems inspired by her IFS training and her own therapy. She sent them to people who told her they recognized themselves in many of them. That "me too" response encouraged her to share them with the world in her new book, but not before working with all of her parts to make sure everyone was on board. She is a clinical psychologist and Level 3 IFS therapist based in Nottinghamshire, UK. She has spent 17 years working with people living with kidney failure, transplantation, and end of life care. Emma also writes a Substack on IFS and neurodiversity. In this episode: How treating a kidney transplant as a new part can change someone's relationship with it Transplant patients often name their kidneys. You won't believe the most common name. Why the CBT she tried didn't fit, and what drew her to IFS instead The puppy dog part behind her IFS and Neurodiversity Substack What readers told her to cut before the book went out Getting every part's permission to publish How poetry carries parts through image, rhythm, and fragment, not just words "The stories belong to me, but the feelings belong to all of us" What her 10-year-old self wanted to be, and what's already waiting in her drafts Emma reads five poems in this episode for us, which is such a treat. As she reads she becomes the parts themselves. Make sure to catch the bonus reading over on Substack. About Emma: Dr. Emma Coyne is a Consultant Clinical Psychologist with 22 years in the NHS, working in adult mental and physical health. She specializes in long term health conditions, neurodivergence, and developmental disabilities, and is particularly interested in working with the body in therapy. She is a Level 3 IFS therapist, trained yoga teacher, and holds Chartered status with the British Psychological Society. She is based in Nottinghamshire, UK. Find Emma on Instagram, Facebook, and TikTok Mentioned in this episode Poems for My Parts: An IFS Therapy Journey by Emma Coyne Emma's Substack on IFS and Neurodiversity New Audio Guide: For The One Waiting Free Bonus: Emma reads "The Chocoholic" on The One Inside Substack. Episode Sponsor This episode is sponsored by Parts Companion. Parts Companion is a therapy companion tool for IFS clients and practitioners that supports the work you do with your parts between sessions. Add a part, and Parts Companion guides you through a series of questions, then creates a parts map, images of your parts, a summary of what you shared, and a personalized audio meditation to connect with each part. Many features are free. Use code THEONEINSIDE for 50% off your first month of a paid plan at partscompanion.org. About The One Inside I started this podcast to help spread IFS out into the world and make the model more accessible to everyone. Eight years later, that's still at the heart of all we do. Join The One Inside Substack community for bonus conversations, extended interviews, meditations, and more. Find Self-Led merch at The One Inside store. Listen to episodes and watch clips on YouTube. Follow me on Instagram @ifstammy or on Facebook at The One Inside with Tammy Sollenberger. I co-create The One Inside with Jeff Schrum, an IFS Level 2 practitioner who helps therapists, coaches, and solopreneurs build content strategy and step curiously into visibility. Resources New to IFS? My book, The One Inside: Thirty Days to Your Authentic Self, is a great place to start. Want a free meditation? Sign up for my email list and get "Get to Know a Should Part" right away. Sponsorship Want to sponsor an episode of The One Inside? Email Tammy.

Episode Description This week I welcome Nancy Sowell to the podcast to kick off Season 8. She spearheaded the intervention program behind the landmark study with medical patients that helped establish IFS as a promising treatment, and she wrote a book about what IFS has to offer our physical health. This one also feels like a full circle moment. Nancy was my lead trainer when The One Inside was just getting started. In this episode we talk about how chronic stress, childhood adversity, perfectionism, and burdened parts affect our physical health, and what IFS can offer. Takeaways Parentification, taking on adult roles or becoming an emotional support for parents in childhood, shows up again and again in the trauma histories of people with autoimmune disease Our health is influenced by our genome and our exposome - the collection of everything we've been exposed to throughout our lives, from gestation forward Chronic internal stress from parts carrying burdens, like "I'm not good enough," has a measurable effect on the body Nancy realized her body had been her guide all along, she just hadn't been tuning in Admitting you're wrong is a relief to your protectors. It's worth considering what it costs them to keep you from doing it Parts that don't want to connect to the body often have very good reasons. Start there About Nancy Nancy Sowell, LICSW, is a Senior Trainer for the IFS Institute and a Harvard Medical School Teaching Associate. She spearheaded the intervention program behind the landmark study with medical patients that helped establish IFS as a promising treatment. She has spent her career exploring how chronic stress, trauma, and unmet emotional needs--especially during childhood--affect our physical health throughout our lives, and what IFS offers for deep, sustainable well-being. Her new book, IFS Health Therapy, co-authored with Martha Sweezy and Richard Schwartz, is available now. Episode Sponsor This episode is sponsored by the IFS Institute.

Brian Jaudon is back on the podcast to help us wrap up Season 7. We talk about soul alignment, what it means to organize your life around your divine essence, and what happens when a chapter closes and something new wants to emerge. Takeaways The question Brian has asked clients for 30 years: what has your life been organized around, and what would you like to reorganize it around? Invitation is a spiritual state. Have you invited what you want into your consciousness, your body, and your whole being? Soul misalignment shows up as a felt sense, and the body knows when something is off Once you've experienced a state of consciousness, you have access to it Live into what is and what wants to be, not what was or what should be Anything not aligned with your divine essence will surface to be examined, released, or renegotiated Brian's medicine journey revelation: we get to exist on this planet without being of service; we can choose how we want to show up and share our gifts with the world Relationship first, task second About Brian Brian Jaudon is a sacred witness to the divine unfolding of one's life. After 30 years as a coach, including his early role as a pioneer in the integration of IFS and coaching, Brian is embracing a new path and calling that is more vibrational and spiritual in nature. For the first time in his professional life, he is inviting individuals and couples to work with him in person at his home (Turtle Ridge) in the Blue Ridge Mountains of western North Carolina. Brian's new website is www.divinebecoming.love Episode Sponsor This episode is sponsored by Therapy Training Boston. Therapy Training Boston offers live, in-person, and online workshops, plus consultation for therapists and other helping professionals, designed to support you as a whole person while satisfying your CE requirements. All of their offerings are taught with an eye toward context, power, and relational justice, and draw on the family systems theories and best practices that shaped the IFS model. They also offer an Intensive Certificate Program in Couples and Family Therapy to help you build confidence and capacity in community. About The One Inside I started this podcast to help spread IFS out into the world and make the model more accessible to everyone. Eight years later, that's still at the heart of all we do. Join The One Inside Substack community for bonus conversations, extended interviews, meditations, and more. New to IFS? My book, The One Inside: Thirty Days to Your Authentic Self, is a great place to start. Listen to episodes and watch select clips on YouTube. Follow me on Instagram @ifstammy or on Facebook at The One Inside with Tammy Sollenberger. I co-create The One Inside with Jeff Schrum, a Level 2 IFS practitioner, coach, and creativity consultant.