Show Notes
Someone says “your presentation could’ve been stronger” and your brain hears “you’re a failure.” Someone says “I think you could listen more” and your brain hears “you’re a bad spouse.” We don’t process feedback as information. We process it as judgment. And because it feels like a verdict, we defend ourselves against the very thing that could make us better. Ryan unpacks why defensiveness, not feedback, is the real enemy of growth.
In this episode, Ryan talks about treating criticism as data instead of a death sentence. Not all feedback is accurate. Some of it is projection. Some of it is jealousy. But some of it is gold. And if you reject all of it because some of it stings, you’ll miss the insights that could’ve changed your trajectory.
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