Hyperconnected and Lonelier Than Ever: What Screens Can't Transmit w/ Jeffrey Stegman & Clayten Stedmann
The Life StylistShow Notes
In the first Lonesome Conversation I ever recorded, I speak with Jeffrey and Clayten, the two men behind Focused Life-Force Energy, to open on a paradox: how can we be more digitally connected than any humans in history, yet lonelier than ever? Clayten remembers pandemic Zoom dinners and the front porch he misses, while Jeffrey names the "field effect" between two people in a room — an intimate, silent exchange between our energetic fields that a video call simply can't carry, and that most of us don't even know we're missing. A quietly unsettling look at what disappears when presence goes virtual.
About Jeffrey Jeffrey Stegman’s focus has been on creating a high-consciousness culture in his businesses, which parallels his own personal spiritual path. Jeffrey was the co-owner of two manufacturing businesses, including one in business since 1835. FLFE is a confluence of Jeffrey’s manufacturing, engineering, business, and spiritual evolution. Focused Life-Force Energy began in 2008 when two men with an interest in high-consciousness fields met through a mutual friend. After coming across the beginnings of an invention that would become part of the FLFE system, Jeffrey Stegman and Clayten Stedmann worked together to develop it further. Eventually, they would broadcast high-consciousness fields to specific locations around the world. They poured thousands of hours into research and development to enhance this technology. Beginning with service projects and targeting trauma-hit areas like refugee camps, FLFE grew into a private company and is now invited into the lives of thousands of people in over 85 countries. The company still donates over 90 percent of the energy created by the technology to service projects around the globe. FLFE is a thriving international organization that continues with its mission to “support the optimal conditions for the evolution of consciousness in an economized society” through the exploration of what is in the highest and best interest of all creation.
About Clayten Clayten Stedmann has worked in the education, training, and coaching business since 1995. From 1995 to 2020, he focused on business as a spiritual path in his coaching practice. He discovered Consciousness Kinesiology in 2004, and as of December 2024, he has done over 14 million CK calibrations and created 10 consciousness assessments and two unique energetic medicine protocols. From 2013 to the present, Clayten has transitioned from using his coaching and research skills in his private practice to using those skills in a company he co-founded. Focused Life-Force Energy continues his purposeful intention to create the conditions for humanity to have a higher level of consciousness.
Lonesome Conversations Limited Series Lonesome Conversations is a special series from The Life Stylist, built around my new book, A Horse Named Lonesome (out November 17, 2026). Loneliness is something almost everyone goes through, and almost nobody talks about honestly. So I sat down with psychologists, philosophers, trauma therapists, teachers, and friends to find the truth about loneliness, and how we heal from it. Each episode is its own conversation, but together they walk the same ground the book maps out. (Pre-order your copy at ahorsenamedlonesome.com) You'll find new episodes alongside our regular show over the coming months.
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