Show Notes
Candice Harris and Gemma Halliwell discuss love in the context of survival from child sexual abuse. Love is complex for survivors; in their exploration, Candice and Gemma share deeply personal stories about how their experiences with abuse shaped their understanding and ability to give and receive love, highlighting the challenges in distinguishing affection from manipulation, the struggle to build self-esteem and trust, and the healing power of positive, authentic relationships. The episode also touches on the importance of parental guidance in developing self-worth, the therapeutic role of creativity, and the nuances of building genuine connections as a path toward healing. Candice and Gemma aim to raise the voices of survivors by sharing their experiences and insights on navigating love after abuse, encompassing romantic relationships, self-love, and the transformative journey of healing.
Each episode of the podcast focuses on a different stage of grief associated with the experience of being a survivor of child sexual abuse. 'Love' is defined as an intense feeling of deep affection; feeling deep affection for someone; like or enjoy very much.
**Content Warning: ** This episode discusses themes related to childhood sexual abuse, which may be distressing or triggering for some listeners. Listener discretion is advised.
**Disclaimer: ** This podcast is a conversation between friends and is for informational purposes only. It should not be considered as a substitute for professional advice or therapy. If you or someone you know is affected by the issues discussed in this episode, please seek support from trained professionals or organisations specialising in mental health and trauma recovery. In the UK, you can access support and find local organisations via the Rape Crisis Helpline 24/7 0808 5002222. Children and young people can contact Childline 24/7 0800 1111. Internationally you can contact the RAINN Network 24/7 who may be able to signpost you to local services in your area (++) 800.656.4673.
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