
Ep. 386: Building Resiliency in our Children with David Thomas
Let's Parent on Purpose: Christian Marriage, Parenting, and DiscipleshipShow Notes
In this conversation, Jay and David discuss the evolving challenges faced by children and adolescents in today's world, particularly in the context of counseling. They explore the importance of emotional regulation, the balance between naming feelings and navigating them, and the need for parents to find a healthy middle ground in their approach to parenting. The discussion also highlights the significance of building resilience in children through healthy risks and practical strategies, such as the 'exposures and ladders' approach to overcoming anxiety. Additionally, they introduce the Daystar Dog Series, which aims to teach resilience through stories featuring therapy dogs.
Takeaways The same child development principles apply today as in the past.
Technology has significantly impacted the challenges children face.
Parents may overcorrect in their approach to emotional support.
Naming emotions is important, but navigating them is crucial.
Resilience in children is diminishing due to overprotection.
Healthy risks are essential for children's growth and development.
Parents should reflect on what they do for their children that they could do themselves.
Anxiety often stems from avoiding discomfort and challenges.
Exposures and ladders can help children face their fears.
Storytelling through the Daystar Dog Series can teach resilience.
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Bio David Thomas, LMSW, is co-executive director of Daystar Counseling in Nashville, Tennessee, and the author of 10 books including his most recent book, Raising Emotionally Strong Boys (Bethany, June 2022). A frequent media guest and speaker, David has spoken to hundreds of thousands in person and millions via his Top 10 kids & family podcast, Raising Boys and Girls, now with more than 10 million downloads since its launch in 2018. Learn more at RaisingBoysAndGirls.com.
Resources mentioned:
Raising Boys and Girls website
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