Speaking with Confidence with Cat Matson: communication coaching for humble leaders

194 - Does This Make Sense ? Is it really such a bad question to ask?

Speaking with Confidence with Cat Matson: communication coaching for humble leaders

Show Notes

‘Does this make sense?’ - a simple 4 word sentence that some of my peers would suggest you should NEVER ask? Why? It’s suggested that asking this question can be either Condescending - suggesting your listener is too stupid to understand whatever it is you’re explaining; or

Damaging your credibility - suggesting you’re questioning your communication effectiveness

I disagree, HARD, on both accounts. I have been asking this question my entire facilitation and coaching career. Listen in to hear: Why I don’t think asking ‘does this make sense’ is either condescending or credibility damaging

Why I think it’s actually a useful question to ask to check for understanding before adding more info

How tonality, body language and even intention of the question has more to do with whether the query is condescending or

After listening, I’m genuinely curious … is this a blind spot of mine and do I sound condescending, or like I don’t know what I’m talking about? Let me know in the comments or find me on instagram - https://www.instagram.com/catmatson/ Join the 7 day Speaking with Impact Practice Series here - https://www.impactfulpresenters.com/live-webinar/speaking-with-impact-7-day-practice-series-april/register

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