Show Notes
Dora has been thinking about what it means to be a good partner, and how easily that desire can turn into pressure to be the best one. More attentive, more patient, more present. No matter how much she gives, there's always another version of herself she could be striving toward. When she shares that feeling with her closest friends, she discovers she's far from alone. Why do so many of us feel like we're falling short, even when we're trying our best? And what if the answer isn't to do more, but to come back to where we are? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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