"Self-Medicating with Argument"—Meaning and Connection to ADHD
Gina Pera's Adult ADHD Roller CoasterShow Notes
For many obvious reasons, ADHD-challenged relationships tend to teem with arguments and conflicts. Especially when neither partner knows ADHD is in the mix! Apart from that, why do some people with ADHD self-medicate with argument? What does that phrase even mean? I wrote about this in my first book, in 2008. Since then, we hear about it more online—but seldom in a useful context. Simply, self-medicating with argument refers to the stimu...
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