Follow Your “Yes” – Having your own back
Speaking of Partnership: Personal Stories of the Power and Payoffs of PartnershipShow Notes
Do you follow your “Yes?” Following your “Yes” is about you taking a step forward in your partnerships by taking action and applying at least one thing you heard from our guests during their interviews this week. On today’s episode, all of this week’s guests have generously provided BONUS MATERIAL, not included in the interviews you listened to earlier this week. Each one has provided incredible examples of the power of following your “Yes”. Enjoy! Laurie Gerber Not Following – Laurie relates back to her interview, discussing when her and her husband were on the brinks of divorce. She had many signs from her inner knowing of how she should be with her husband. She remembers always telling herself when she got home from work, “be nice, be nice, be nice”, and it’s almost like the more she told herself, the more she rebelled. Find out what happened next by listening to the podcast. Following – Laurie describes this moment as the time she was open and he was brave enough to tell her the truth about how he felt. She remembers being taken back at how brave he truly was because she had shut it down for so long. During that moment is when everything else started to come together. Find out the rest of the story by listening to the podcast. Listen to Laurie’s interview here Connect with Laurie – Her Website Find out which areas of life you may need to work on with the free coaching tool from Laurie Gerber and Handel Group, The Current Reality Quiz. Check out our free, time-trusted coaching tool, The Art of Being Honest, and learn how to have difficult conversations with grace and wisdom. Inner.U is the digital coaching course from Handel Group – 14+ hours of audio coaching, 50+ written assignments, community chat, and much more. Use code PARTNERSHIPS75 for $75 off a subscription at checkout! Free Consultation at Handel Group Facebook Dr. Jessica Higgins Not Following – Jessica referred back to the story she shared in her interview of a guy she was with a long time ago before she met her husband. Jessica wasn’t aware of her patterns during that conflict. Jessica constantly felt compelled to rationalize and defend. She felt a little outside of herself. She was trying to change his perception of her. Find out what happened next by listening to the podcast. Following – Jessica was a clear “yes” to be committed to being connected to herself when entering in relationships. She relates back to when she first met her husband. At first she wasn’t sure if he wanted a relationship or if he was emotionally available. It wasn’t a clear “yes” on him at first but it was a clear “yes” on her. She learned so much from her past relationship that she was able to be vulnerable with him. By her doing that, he began to lean in more and more each time. Find out the rest of the story by listening to the podcast. Listen to Jessica’s interview here Connect with Jessica – Her Website Empowered Relationship Podcast Susan Johnson’s Therapy – EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy)
More from Speaking of Partnership: Personal Stories of the Power and Payoffs of Partnership
Do you follow your “Yes?” Following your “Yes” is about you taking a step forward in your partnerships by taking action and applying at least one thing you heard from our guests during their interviews this week. On today’s episode, all of this week’s guests have generously provided BONUS MATERIAL, not included in the interviews you listened to earlier this week. Each one has provided incredible examples of the power of following your “Yes”. Enjoy! Pablo Rosario Not Following – Pablo relates back to a four and a half year relationship he had in his early 20’s. He says that it should have been much shorter than that. As it progressed, things were going downhill. It was getting to the point where his partner was being a bad teammate. He kept debating on whether to leave or not. Find out what happened next by listening to the show. Following – This situation ended up being one of the turning points in Pablo’s life. He left all of his relationships and ended up moving to the other side of the country. He got a job offer in California. He is from New Jersey and knew nobody in California. He decided right away that he was going to move. Find out what happened next by listening to the show. Listen to Pablo’s full interview here Connect with Pablo – His Website Instagram Reba Riley Not Following – This is when Reba decided to go into business with her best friend. Her “yes” was that she needed to tell her friend the truth, but she didn’t do that. Because of this, they ended up losing their friendship for a year. Find out more by listening to the episode. Following – With Reba’s book, “Post-Traumatic Church Syndrome”, she was originally with another publisher. She ended up getting an opportunity to meet with another agent. Meeting with this agent was going to take travel and time, but she had a strong sense that she needed to do this. She ended up meeting with the agent and it ended up being one of the best decisions she’s ever made. Find out what happened next by listening to the interview. Listen to Reba’s full interview here Connect with Reba – Her Website Instagram Facebook Twitter
Reba Riley is the author of the Simon & Schuster bestselling memoir “Post-Traumatic Church Syndrome: one woman’s desperate, funny, and healing journey through 30 religions before her 30th birthday” She has overcome chronic illness, depression, and spiritual injury & now travels nationally speaking on the topics of healing, courage, and radical kindness. Guiding Principle, Quote, or Mantra Brave is a verb. Kindness cures. Love is bigger than everything. When You “Tripped Up” in a Partnership One of Reba’s biggest “trip ups” came with her best friend. They had decided that they were going to start a business together and it didn’t go well. This was about ten years ago and they had a great idea. What they discovered in the process is that they’re fantastic friends but horrible in working together. What tripped her up was that she felt like she couldn’t be honest at times with her friend. Find out what happened next by listening to the show. Your Proudest Moment in Partnership One of Reba’s proudest moments in partnership came with her editor for her book, ‘Post Traumatic Church Syndrome’. What her editor did was take her raw talent and experience, and taught her how to craft it into a story. In a period of over 18 months, her editor did everything in her power to help her along the way. Nearing the end, Reba asked her for her honest opinion on what she thought of the book and everything, and she replied with “I’m so happy and proud to have my name involved with this book.” Find out what happened next by listening to the show. The Best Partnership Advice You’ve Ever Received Love is bigger than everything. And a funny marriage one – Separate bank accounts, separate bathrooms. A Book or Resource That You Recommend Post Traumatic Church Syndrome – Reba Riley The 5 Love Languages – Dr. Gary Chapman Interview Links – Her Website Instagram Facebook Twitter
Pablo Rosario is a men’s relationship coach and speaker with over 6 years of experience helping executives, business owners, and CEO’s find more fulfilling relationships. With a background in psychology, and neuro-linguistic programming, he specializes in the topics of relationships, communication, overcoming inner conflict, passion and confidence, and has helped hundreds of men find happiness and fulfillment in their relationships and life. Guiding Principle, Quote, or Mantra It’s you and me versus everyone else. I envision my partner and I being a team. When You “Tripped Up” in a Partnership Pablo reminders a time when he was younger, around 22 years old, and he was in a relationship. He was in the process of trying out something new where he would speak his mind, would be more honest, and wouldn’t hold back. He told the woman he was dating that he thought she was wearing too much makeup. This didn’t go so well. Find out what happened next by listening to the show. What is the Biggest Thing That Men “Trip Up” on with Women? Pablo explains that the biggest thing men “trip up” on with women is vulnerability. Pablo struggled with this in the past as well. For a lot of men, it makes them really uncomfortable. Men have this idea that they’re not allowed to show it. Find out more about this topic by listening to the show. The Best Partnership Advice You’ve Ever Received Your partner is not a mind reader. A Book or Resource That You Recommend Getting the Love You Want – Harville Hendrix The Truth – Neil Strauss Interview Links – His Website Instagram His email
Do you follow your “Yes?” Following your “Yes” is about you taking a step forward in your partnerships by taking action and applying at least one thing you heard from our guests during their interviews this week. On today’s episode, all of this week’s guests have generously provided BONUS MATERIAL, not included in the interviews you listened to earlier this week. Each one has provided incredible examples of the power of following your “Yes”. Enjoy! Greg Lee & Antonia Van Becker Not Following – From a young age Greg was able to help people relieve themselves from pain; he always knew what to do. So, he studied massage therapy and he also had a huge passion for music. He felt like he was really having trouble making money with it. Throughout the next 9 years, Greg tried different positions but was never truly in love with any of the positions, and he knew that. It started to take a toll on him, getting aches and pains, and then ended up getting quite sick. Around the same time he was fired from his position. Although all of it was a shock, it was a wake up call for him to follow his passions. From there, things started to fall into place. Find out what happened next by listening to the show. Following – Back at the end of Antonia’s corporate job in the 90’s, she had a vision in a healing session she had with a healing mentor. She could not get the vision out of her mind so Antonia started writing. She kept writing and writing, and she pinned pointed the vision was taking place in Ireland. So, she decided to go to Ireland. She wanted to figure out where this book was set. Find out what happened next by listening to the show. Listen to Greg and Antonia’s full interview here Connect with them – Their Website 3 Powerful Ways To Tap Into Your Body’s Wisdom FB Group – Vibrant Healing Wisdom Niajae Wallace Not Following – One of the biggest things Niajae would recommend is really checking in with yourself. What do you want? What are your desires? And hold onto your identity. Try to quiet the noise. With social media we’re constantly comparing ourselves. We’re constantly looking for someone else to answer your own questions. Niajae started meditating to balance out her life. Before she started doing this she felt like her life was chaotic. Find out more by listening to the episode. Following – Niajae relates back to when she decided to sell her brick and mortar business. She wasn’t able to do all of the things she truly desired with this business so she followed that intuition to sell it. When this happened she was able to follow her desires. Listen to Niajae’s full interview here Connect with Niajae – Her Website Facebook Instagram
Niajae is a coach and motivational speaker that believes you can have it all. She coaches entrepreneurs to help them step into their power and inspires through her mindset and self-development podcast named Abundance Hack. Guiding Principle, Quote, or Mantra You can’t pour from an empty cup. You have to take care of you first. When You “Tripped Up” in a Partnership Niajae has been single for a good part of her adult life. Niajae does a lot of research and realized that she was neglecting unconditional love and acceptance because of her upbringing. Her biggest “trip up” is getting into relationships before she has dealt with her own personal traumas, many of them relating to her childhood. Find out what happened next by listening to the show. Your Proudest Moment in Partnership During the time when Niajae was selling her business, there was a moment nearing the end where she started to cry. At that same moment, her teammates were also crying and they had this huge group hug together that was very touching. Although they were all crying, it was a very proud moment knowing that they’ve made a very positive impact. The Best Partnership Advice You’ve Ever Received Knowing your partner’s love language and being able it speak it fluently. A Book or Resource That You Recommend Attached – Amir Levine Interview Links – Her Website Facebook Instagram