Show Notes
There is a symptom of ADHD that is not in the diagnostic manual, not on the official list, and yet adults consistently describe it as the most painful part of living with this brain. It is called rejection sensitivity, or RSD.
In this episode, I explain what RSD actually is, why it is not the same thing as being overly sensitive, and what is happening in the ADHD nervous system that makes rejection land so much harder. You will hear about a child who tore up her homework after gentle feedback, a teen who blocked her closest friend on every platform over a single message, and the most powerful research backed strategy for moving through an RSD episode.
Whether you are a parent watching your child fall apart over something small, or an adult who has spent a lifetime people pleasing and replaying conversations at 2 in the morning, this episode is for you.
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