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What happens when you begin recognising old relational patterns… and start looking back at past relationships differently? In this week’s Inner Work episode, I reflect on grief, hindsight, growth, emotional memory and the complicated feelings that can emerge when we realise we might make very different choices now than we once did. We explore: changing values and priorities relational growth and self-reflection compassion for former versions of ourselves grief for what could have been emotional reactions to photos, memories and relationships from the past healing old emotional wounds how therapy can help memories feel less emotionally jagged
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