
Show Notes
What if grief isn’t something to get over, but something that reveals what you haven’t felt yet? Today, I’m joined by my wife, Alyson Charles Storey, bestselling author and shamanic teacher known for guiding people back to their connection with the Divine, for a deeply personal conversation on grief, death, and sacred friendship. There’s a difference between understanding loss and being pulled into it without warning. We break down how grief as a living process can reopen emotions you thought were complete, and why that can be part of healing. We also explore what it means to honor someone without turning their life into content, and how Alyson approaches this work through devotion, spiritual practice, and grounded human experience. From there, we shift into sobriety and surrender. I share why real change didn’t come from discipline, but from giving up control and trusting something greater. You’ll learn: [00:00] Introduction [03:56] What losing James Van Der Beek revealed about the rarest kind of friendship [15:01] The kind of person who makes you realize how few of them there are [33:43] The prayer that got me sober and what 29 years taught me about surrender [46:10] Why the most spiritually masterful people are the hardest to recognize [01:02:45] The exhaustion nobody warns you about when you've been awake too long [01:15:03] Two biohacking discoveries I can't stop using [01:26:09] Doyle Bramhall II's healing session delivered plant medicine depth without the plant medicine [01:33:46] When the audience knows what you need before you do Get the Animal Power book and deck, plus a free guided drumming shamanic journey to meet your power animal, at alysoncharles.com/animalpower
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