The Kirk Miller Podcast

E200 | 'How To Raise Confident Kids and Prevent Bullying' with Seb Bates

The Kirk Miller Podcast

Show Notes

In this episode of The Kirk Miller Podcast, Kirk sits down with Sebastian Bates, founder of Warrior Academy and an advocate for building confident and resilient young people, to discuss one of the biggest challenges facing children and parents today: confidence, resilience, and bullying. Seb shares insights from years of working with children, families, and schools, explaining why bullies often target certain individuals and what parents can do to help their children develop the confidence and presence that discourages bullying in the first place. The conversation explores how body language, communication, and self-belief shape the way children are perceived by others — and why confident kids are far less likely to become targets. This episode offers practical guidance for parents who want to raise stronger, more resilient children in an increasingly challenging social environment. In this episode, Kirk and Seb discuss: Why bullies often target children who display vulnerability The body language and behaviours that can make kids appear like easy targets How parents can help children develop confidence and presence The importance of eye contact, posture, and communication skills Practical tools children can use to handle difficult situations How resilience and self-belief reduce the likelihood of bullying The role parents play in shaping their children's confidence For more information on what was discussed in this episode head to https://kirkmiller.co.uk/programme/ The Kirk Miller Podcast is the show for business leaders and peak performers to get into the best physical and mental shape of their lives and unleash from within confidence they never thought possible.

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