
He doesn’t like one kid in the group (Joe, Age 9) | 145
Kids Ask Dr. Friendtastic: Friendship Advice for Kids (K-8)Show Notes
Ep. 145 - Kids Ask Dr. Friendtastic: He doesn’t like one kid in the group (Joe, Age 9) | Friendship advice for kids FREE guide for parents: 12 ways to help your child make friends https://drfriendtastic.com/gift/ Parents, check out my online workshops for kids at workshops.eileenkennedymoore.com. Would YOUR KID like to be featured on the podcast? SUBMIT A QUESTION TO DR. FRIENDTASTIC at https://DrFriendtastic.com/submit (Obviously, this is not psychotherapy, and it’s not for emergency situations.) For an easy-to-read TRANSCRIPT, go to: https://DrFriendtastic.com/podcast/ Like the podcast? Check out my books at https://EileenKennedyMoore.com. Subscribe to my NEWSLETTER, https://DrFriendtastic.substack.com, to get podcast episodes sent to your email plus articles for parents. *** DISCUSSION QUESTIONS: - Have you ever had to get along with someone you don’t particularly like? How did you handle that? - How can disliking someone (and telling people you don’t like that person!) hurt your friendships with other kids? - Dr. Friendtastic said that staying away from a group because you don’t like one person “would be giving this one kid a lot of power to influence who you play with and what you do.” What does this mean? - Why is trying to kick someone out of a group an unkind thing to do? - Why might flooding someone you don’t like with kindness be a useful strategy? (Hint: How are they likely to respond?) When would this strategy not be a good idea? *** You might also like these podcast episodes: Ep. 138 - When joking is mean, not funny (Seb, Age 11) https://drfriendtastic.substack.com/p/ep138-when-joking-is-mean-not-funny-seb-age11 Ep. 12 - Kid bullies him at recess (Adrian, Age 8) https://drfriendtastic.substack.com/p/kids-ask-dr-friendtastic-ep-12-adrian Ep. 3 - Kid tries to wreck game (Noelle, Age 10) https://drfriendtastic.substack.com/p/kids-ask-dr-friendtastic-episode-4b8
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