How She Does It

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How She Does It

Show Notes

How She Does It is on a short hiatus, but Karen was kind enough to let us drop into your feed today. This show is part of the HerMoney Media Network — so if you like what you hear, come find us at The HerMoney Podcast.

On today's episode, Jean Chatzky sits down with Sari Botton, the writer and editor behind Oldster Magazine, a Substack newsletter with over 85,000 subscribers, and author of And You May Find Yourself: Confessions of a Late-Blooming Gen X Weirdo.

In this episode, we cover:

What the real financial cost of people-pleasing is

How women in the Oldster community have reinvented themselves professionally in their 50s, 60s, and beyond

The "compare and despair" trap so many of us fall into around money milestones

Sari's own winding career, from ghostwriting to naming pantyhose colors to building Oldster

Making peace with financial regrets

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