
Trying to figure out who the emotionally abusive person really is in the relationship
Love and AbuseShow Notes
You'd think it'd be easy to figure out: The hurtful one is the abusive one. But what happens when the victim gets convinced they are the abuser? Determining that while in the abuse cycle can sometimes be very difficult. However, I make it very clear in this episode.
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