Is matrescence the secret to a fulfilling career in motherhood? A conversation with Jess Ringgenberg
Where Did I Go...?Show Notes
In this episode of Where Did I Go?, I sit down with Jess Ringgenberg, founder of ELIXR and creator of the groundbreaking Five Phases of Matrescence, a practical framework to guide women and businesses through the constant evolution that is caregiving while working.
Together we unpack:
What matrescence really is, and how it's a lifelong journey
How understanding matrescence helps make sense of career and identity shifts at work
The practical steps workplaces can take to support mothers through every phase of this lifelong journey
Why the mental load mothers carry isn't a weakness but an untapped strength in leadership
If you've ever felt confused by the constant shifts in your identity or wondered how to better navigate motherhood and work, this episode will offer the clarity, compassion, and validation you've been searching for.
Key Moments:
[03:15] Defining matrescence and the "invisible changes"
[11:40] Why returning to work is a reinvention, not a return
[19:30] Breaking down the Five Phases of Matrescence
[27:05] Why maternal mental load is actually leadership in disguise
[33:50] Tangible ways workplaces can evolve to support mothers
About Jess Ringgenberg, PCC
Founder & CEO, ELIXR
Jess Ringgenberg is an organizational advisor, researcher, and former Fortune 500 leader with deep expertise in workforce strategy, matrescence, and leadership development. As the founder of ELIXR, a workforce advisory firm, she partners with companies to support working mothers and caregivers—driving retention, engagement, and advancement across the employee lifecycle.
Jess is the creator of The Science of Modern Motherhood, a groundbreaking research initiative that explores the five phases of matrescence and the evolving role of workplace support. She is trusted by global companies, communities, and conferences to deliver actionable insights that shape culture, elevate well-being, and spark organizational change.
She lives in Dallas, TX with her husband and two boys, building a life centered on presence, challenging traditional norms, and creating lasting impact.
Connect with Jess & her work here:
LinkedIn, full research report, and the guide we they launched this month.
Code for 50% off the guide for all WDIG listeners: Mom2Mom
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