Disordered: Anxiety Help

Anxiety and Not Feeling The "Right" Emotions (Episode 138)

Disordered: Anxiety Help

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Send a question or comment via text message When you're at your child's birthday party, your wedding day, or on a much-anticipated vacation, do you find yourself feeling anxious instead of joyful—and then getting frustrated with yourself for "not feeling the right way"? In this episode, Drew and Josh explore one of the most common traps in anxiety recovery: judging yourself for having the "wrong" emotions. You'll hear about how people struggling with panic disorder, agoraphobia, OCD, and ot...

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