Show Notes
You cannot manifest what you want when you feel like sh*t. Well, technically you can, but you'll probably keep manifesting more of what you don't want. In this episode, I'm joined by my husband Hamish to have an honest conversation about manifestation, alignment, energy, and what it really takes to create the life, business, relationships, and opportunities you want. When you're operating from stress, scarcity, frustration, overwhelm, or fear, it's easy to fall into the trap of forcing outcomes instead of becoming the person capable of receiving them. In this episode, we discuss: why you can't create abundance from a place of lack what to do when life feels heavy and nothing seems to be working how to become the version of you who already has what you want the balance between surrender, trust and taking action This conversation will challenge the way you think about manifestation and remind you that sometimes the biggest shifts happen when you stop forcing and start trusting. READY TO BUILD YOUR AUTHORITY, CONFIDENCE & PERSONAL BRAND? 📖 GET ERIKA'S BOOKS → Becoming Magnetic (Penguin Random House, 2025) → Confidence Feels Like Shit (2020) Available here: https://shop.thequeenofconfidence.com/collections/book Amazon, Barnes & Noble or any audio book app 📩 GROW YOUR FANBASE — Learn the timeless skill that turned my 1,000 followers into a 7 figure global business → https://courses.thequeenofconfidence.com/offers/TKhTxM3n/checkout ♟️ The Queen's Table My high-level mentorship for women ready to step into leadership, visibility and legacy. → https://thequeenofconfidence.com/the-queens-table/ ✨ The Next Level Build your confidence, audience and income. → https://thequeenofconfidence.com/the-next-level/ 🎤 BOOK ERIKA TO SPEAK → For keynotes, corporate events, and women's leadership conferences in Australia and the USA: https://thequeenofconfidence.com/speaking/ 📲 FOLLOW ERIKA → Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thequeenofconfidence/?hl=en → LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/erika-cramer-queenconfidence/ → Website: https://thequeenofconfidence.com/about/ → TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thequeenofconfidence Chapters
00:00:00 Why You Can't Manifest When You Feel Like Sh*t 00:02:28 The Energy of Your Home Impacts Your Business: Working as a Couple 00:03:42 You Can't Attract from Chaos: Why Pushing Through Shitty Feelings Doesn't Work 00:05:17 When Working Harder Makes Things Worse 00:06:46 Hamish's Three-Step Formula: Detach, Journal, and Breathwork 00:08:09 The Information Overload Problem: Why You're Taking Advice That Doesn't Apply to You 00:09:33 Getting Back to Center: Meditation, Breath Work, and Creative Journaling 00:13:00 What Erika Does When She Feels Like Sh*t: Crying, Venting, and Getting It Out 00:21:48 The Danger of Doomscrolling: Stop Researching and Start Creating 00:22:39 Exercise, Sleep, and Self-Care: The Foundation of Feeling Good 00:25:08 The Sexiest Part: Hamish's Manifestation Process Explained 00:27:48 Envisioning Your Reality as a Player of One 00:29:35 The Peter Pan Principle of Manifestation 00:30:27 From Head to Body: Feeling It, Not Just Thinking It 00:32:37 Your Body Doesn't Know the Difference: Living the Vision Now 00:34:48 The Open-Eye Meditation: Walking Around as the Version Who Already Has It 00:36:06 Shifting Your Identity: Be the Person Who Already Has What You Want 00:41:30 The Lottery Exercise: What Would You Do If You Won 22 Million Dollars Right Now? 00:40:46 You Got to Be Fucking Good: The Vessel Has to Feel Good First
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Gina Zapanta is a lawyer, entrepreneur, mother of four and founder of Empowered with Gina.