How to Humanist

#8 Sipping Coffee in Hell with Alyssa Grenfell

How to Humanist

Show Notes

Alyssa Grenfell grew up knowing three things: coffee was basically heroin, God had a very specific plan for her life, and that plan included Italy. Denver... same difference. In this episode, Alyssa and Shay get into what it actually costs to leave the Mormon church: the wrong husband God recommended, the sister who didn't spontaneously combust when she accidentally drank coffee, and where exactly sin is hiding in the furniture at West Elm. Alyssa wrote the book on leaving Mormonism. Literally. It's called How to Leave the Mormon Church and it’s the necessary guide to ever tasting that sweet, sinful, macchiato. ABOUT ALYSSA GRENFELL

Alyssa Grenfell is a writer, content creator, and speaker exploring the intersections of faith, culture, and personal transformation. Raised in a devout Mormon family, she attended Brigham Young University, served a full-time mission, and married in the temple before ultimately leaving the church in her mid-twenties. Now based in Texas, Alyssa creates commentary, essays, and videos that unpack high-demand religions, social dynamics, and the challenges of rebuilding identity outside of faith. How to Leave the Mormon Church by Alyssa Grenfell: https://bit.ly/exmormonbook YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@alyssadgrenfell TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@alyssadgrenfell Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alyssadgrenfell

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