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LOVE FEST! The Ultimatum's Luke Wesselhoff & Monica Payne Talk Growth & Goofiness - Ep 483

Dear Shandy

Show Notes

It's Love Fest time! 🎉 Shandy is excited to be joined in-studio by Monica Payne and Luke Wesselhoff from Season 4 of Netflix's The Ultimatum!

Today Luke and Monica give us a peek behind The Ultimatum curtain: what didn't we see on the show, and just how accurate (or inaccurate) was their edit? We talk growth on and off the show, navigating the public's assumptions, their high school personas, their first kiss, and of course, how they fight! Finally, a Newlyweds Game that proves these two go waaaay back! Who knows who better? Watch on to find out!

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Time Stamps: 0:00 - Welcome Monica & Luke! 1:30 - What We Didn’t See On The Show 6:56 - Luke’s Journey 13:36 - Monica’s Journey 19:33 - Would They Be Engaged Today Without ‘The Ultimatum’ 23:37 - Why They Went On The Show 32:00 - The Intimidation Of David/Luke’s Confidence 42:16 - High School/First Kiss 51:53 - Monica’s “Professionalism” 57:19 - Conflict Resolution 1:06:06 - The Newlyweds Game

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