Show Notes
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You know that moment when your baby wakes at 10pm but you're trying to hold the feed until midnight? Sally and Bec finally explain what 'just resettle' actually means in practice - because they've been saying it for 64 episodes without breaking down the how.
This week they answer a listener question that gets to the heart of overnight feed weaning: what do you actually do during those lengthy middle-of-the-night resettles? How long is too long? And when is in-arms resettling helpful versus becoming the new sleep crutch?
What You'll Learn: • What resettling looks like when baby wakes before their anchored feed time • Why bringing the feed earlier undermines the whole plan (even when it feels hard) • The difference between 'testing the waters' and actively sleep training • When in-arms resettling helps vs when it becomes the new prop • Why resettles can take an hour or more the first night (and why that's normal) • How to know if you should use a hands-on technique or less intervention • Why you never see the benefit in the moment - it comes the next night • The extinction burst pattern: great nights, then one brutal resettle, then smooth sailing
Chapters: 00:00 Intro - today's listener question 02:00 Liz's question: how long do I resettle before feeding? 03:00 What 'resettle' actually means in practice 04:41 Testing waters vs actively sleep training 05:50 Using your bedtime technique for overnight resettles 07:21 Why first resettles can be lengthy (and that's expected) 08:38 Don't bring the feed earlier just because it feels hard 10:04 How the internal clock rewires with consistent responses 11:00 Why we say 'just resettle' (we see what happens next) 13:21 Defining sleep training vs making gentle changes 14:37 When in-arms resettling is appropriate vs problematic 16:05 Creating opportunities to strengthen self-settling skills 19:41 When baby has already shown sleep consolidation skills 20:37 Why everything you do through the day makes resettling easier 22:30 Why we don't put time caps on resettles 24:27 Sally's story: two-hour extinction burst, then smooth nights 26:26 Wrap up and sleep detectives questions
🎙️ ABOUT NAP TRAPPED Sally Woods and Bec Maher are baby sleep consultants who believe exhausted parents deserve real answers, not judgment. Each episode of Nap Trapped breaks down one sleep challenge with evidence-based advice and a healthy dose of humor.
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