1286: Stop Trying to Control What You Can't Change: The Three Circles of Anxiety
The Anxiety Coaches PodcastShow Notes
In today's episode, Gina discusses the three circles of anxiety: the circle of concern, the circle of influence and the circle of control. These three principles, when understood correctly, can really help one to cool unnecessary anxiety and optimize one's thoughts and behavior. Focus your energy on what you can change, let go of the rest. Listen in for helpful insights on these powerful organizational principles for your mind and start living better today!
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Chapters 0:27 Boundaries and Control 2:35 The Three Circles 5:48 Anxiety’s Control Trap 7:39 Sorting a Critical Comment 12:27 Caring Without Carrying 15:32 Practicing Letting Go 19:26 Returning to What’s Yours
Summary In this episode we continue our discussion of boundaries and focus on the idea that boundaries are about more than saying no. We look at how anxious thinking often takes responsibility for too many things, including other people’s reactions, opinions, and future outcomes.
We revisit the three circles framework: circle of concern, circle of influence, and circle of control. We explain that concern includes many things we care about, but caring about something does not mean we can control it. Influence includes the ways our words, actions, and choices may affect a situation, while control is limited to what is actually in our hands, such as our responses, attention, and whether we pause before acting.
We also look at how anxiety tries to enlarge our sense of control through worry, overthinking, and replaying conversations. We use the example of receiving a critical comment and sort the situation into the three circles, showing that the other person’s opinion is concern, while our response and boundaries are within our control.
Finally, we emphasize that the goal is not to stop caring, but to care without carrying everything. We practice asking what belongs to concern, influence, or control, and return to what is ours to do in the present moment. The episode closes with encouragement to treat this as an ongoing practice and to let go of what is not ours to manage.
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