Show Notes

Timeouts are such a common practice when parents are trying to get their kids to listen; I would even venture to guess it's a recommendation from professionals and something regularly talked about as a helpful behavior strategy on the internet.

But, did you know that sending your child off to a timeout is creating more disconnection. When there is disconnection, your child's "thinking" brain is inaccessible. This creates MORE of the unwanted behavior.

Instead, get CONNECTED! Connection = better behavior.

Tune in today as I share your child's perspective on timeouts and 2 strategies you can utilize instead that creates connection.

Chaos to Calm mini course: https://dawn-term-318.myflodesk.com

Stay Listening episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-helping-parents-navigate-challenging/id1609008872?i=1000554474011

Are you really okay with crying episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chaos-to-connected-helping-parents-navigate-challenging/id1609008872?i=1000565110255

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XO Kaili

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