Show Notes
Parent-teacher conferences can feel stressful for parents, but Sissy Goff and David Thomas encourage families to approach them as opportunities to build a supportive team around their child. They share practical ways to create a spirit of partnership with teachers, receive honest feedback without becoming defensive, and look beyond grades to understand how a child is growing academically, emotionally, and socially. They also remind parents to focus on a few meaningful next steps, involve children in solving problems, and recognize where stepping back may allow kids to develop greater independence, responsibility, and confidence.
Suggested parent-teacher conference questions:
How can I support what you’re doing at school from home?
Is there anything you see at school that we might not be seeing at home?
Where do you see capability in my child that they might not see yet?
Where could we give our child more responsibility?
What are two things we could work on at home right now?
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