
The Road To Love: Dating, Cheating and Age Gaps with Reality TV star Nick Viall
The Man Enough PodcastShow Notes
Is it really that wrong to text your ex happy birthday? The Bachelor ABC star, Nick Viall, says yes! Nick has had a tumultuous journey finding love in the public eye over the last 10 years and today he joins to share about his decade of growth and current outlook on love. Nick opens up about his worst breakup, overcoming being cheated on, feeling safe in relationships and celebrating his new found love, age-gaps and all. New episodes every Monday 🎙️ Special video clips each week on https://youtube.com/WeAreManEnough Sign up for the Man Enough newsletter to get full video episodes and positive masculinity news every Monday: http://manenough.com/newsletter The Man Enough Podcast is produced by Wayfarer Studios and presented by Procter and Gamble, in partnership with Cadence13, an Audacy company.
Timecodes: 03:24 Introducing Nick Viall 06:35 When Was The Last Time You Didn’t Feel Man Enough? 07:55 Is Emasculation Really a Myth? 12:45 Repressed Emotions Fester Into Unhealthy Behaviors 18:43 Nick’s Hardest Breakup 20:04 Dating Apps Make Dating Harder 25:18 Men Want to Feel Safe In Their Partnerships Too 28:11 Masculinity on The Bachelor and The Bachelorette 35:55 The Pain and Allure of Cheating 48:22 Why You Shouldn’t Text Your Ex Happy Birthday 53:55: Nick on Navigating the Age Gap in His Relationship 01:06:10 What Does It Mean To Be Man Enough?
Quotes: “I spent a lot of time getting to know my ego” - Nick Viall "Someone who doesn't want to be with us is not our person...We should be with people who want to prioritize us." "I've definitely felt emasculated...We all have to have that space to be able to admit when we don't feel enough. We are enough but sometimes we quite literally don't feel that... I think it takes a lot of guts for a man to admit that." "I feel that you are doing the work in ways that I love hearing that men are doing...I hear a lot of accountability and ownership, emotional willingness to have conversations. So I think you're exemplifying honestly some of the ways that men can learn from. I'm glad you're doing the work you're doing." - Jamey Heath
About Nick Viall: Nick starred in the 21st season of ABC’s The Bachelor, and now hosts the People’s Choice nominated podcast, The Viall Files which explores dating in the modern age. Since the show’s inception in 2019, Nick’s no-BS, unfiltered advice on dating & relationships has amassed over 100 million downloads and a spot in AP’s Top 10 Podcasts.
Read Don’t Text Your Ex Happy Birthday Following the success of The Viall Files, Nick released his first book, Don't Text Your Ex Happy Birthday: And Other Advice on Love, Sex, and Dating, in October 2022. The dating advice book features snippets from his own personal dating experience while guiding readers through the complicated world of "situationships," identifying red flags, and avoiding toxic relationships. The book is an honest, humorous, all-encompassing dating guide for a new generation.
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