Show Notes
Michael brings his first experience of Hakomi, a gentle, mindfulness-based somatic therapy, and the two of them unpack what actually happens when the body starts to unwind on its own. They get into following impulses instead of forcing them, why a guided container helps, the discipline of allowing rather than controlling, and how exaggerating a tension can be the thing that finally releases it. Along the way: repression and chronic pain, fascia and non-directive movement, and where Hakomi sits next to TRE.
00:00 Intro 00:45 Michael's first Hakomi session 06:45 Remote vs. in-person somatic work 09:48 The body unwinding on its own: following the impulse 12:30 Why a guided container helps 16:00 Allowing vs. controlling 19:00 Expectations, impatience, and resistance 22:15 Bringing what is below awareness back online 26:45 Exaggerating a tension to release it 30:45 Repression, chronic pain, and compartmentalization 35:15 Fascia, unwinding, and not needing to know why 40:15 Aftereffects and worse before better 42:45 When it is too much: TRE and overdoing it 46:05 Hakomi vs. TRE: a tool or a whole path 48:55 Wrap-up
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