458: Summer Series - Showing Up When It's Hard

Starting September 1st, we're going deep into The 90-Day Reinvention inside the School of Self-Image membership. Three full months of deciding, designing, and embodying the woman you're becoming. If you're ready to stop watering down what you want and finally close the gap between who you are and who you know you can be, join us at schoolofselfimage.com/go. Today's episode is about the five ways I've watched reinventions fail, my own included, and why it's never because we're incapable of change. It's because, before we even begin, we've already watered down what we really want and started negotiating with all the old fears and rules that got us here. I'm still in the middle of my own business reinvention, which means I've lived through every single one of these. In this episode, I'm sharing what I've learned so that when you hit one of these, you'll recognize it for what it is and refuse to give in to it. Here's what we cover: My annual executive physical, and what it confirmed I already knew How my Word of the Year quietly led me to reinvent my business Why I do pre-mortems, and treat every failed reinvention as data Reason 1: Why truth has to come before reinvention Reason 2: Why "should" goals quietly sabotage you Reason 3: Why demanding the "how" keeps you doing math instead of dreaming Reason 4: Why the rules of your old life won't build your new one Reason 5: Why we put our identity on layaway How to start closing the gap in small, ordinary choices What's coming this September in The 90-Day Reinvention, and why the podcast is taking a pause Did you enjoy this episode? Subscribe to the podcast and leave a 5-star review! You can also listen to this show on YouTube and on all your favorite podcast platforms. How to Connect with Tonya Leigh Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tonyaleighofficial/ Pinterest: https://ph.pinterest.com/tonyaofficial/ Twitter: https://x.com/tonyaleigh YouTube: https://schoolofselfimage.com/yt-tl #schoolofselfimage #becomeunrecognizable #selfimagetransformation

The 90-Day Reinvention is back. Join me this September for three months of deciding, designing, and embodying who you're becoming next. https://schoolofselfimage.com/join Back in May, I stopped recording. No warning, no explanation. Just silence. In that silence, I was being called to change something. This is me finally telling you what that something is: the seven signs I've learned to recognize when I'm standing at the edge of my own reinvention (you might recognize these, too), and the real reason my business needed to catch up with who I've become. Here's what we cover: Why reinvention isn't about becoming someone new; it's about coming back to the truth of who you already are Why I'm no longer interested in being a "better" version of myself, and what I'm chasing instead The word that quietly changed every choice I made this year The big misconception about reinvention, and why your life doesn't have to be bad for you to want one The seven signs you're on the edge of your own reinvention and why they show up in the strangest places – your closet, your calendar, your silence What I'm bringing back this September, and why I'm doing The 90-Day Reinvention differently this time Did you enjoy this episode? Subscribe to the podcast and leave a 5-star review! You can also listen to this show on YouTube and on all your favorite podcast platforms. How to Connect with Tonya Leigh Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tonyaleighofficial/ Pinterest: https://ph.pinterest.com/tonyaofficial/ Twitter: https://x.com/tonyaleigh YouTube: https://schoolofselfimage.com/yt-tl #schoolofselfimage #becomeunrecognizable #selfimagetransformation

Welcome to Poolside Confessions, my summer series where I sit by the water, slow down, and share what I'm actually living and thinking about. Today's confession is a celebration and an honest look back at 12 years of showing up. 500 episodes. I still can't believe it. My first podcast was published on August 8, 2014, and I have been showing up consistently – week after week – ever since. Over coffee, I pulled out my journal and wrote down every lesson this journey has taught me. In this episode, I'm sharing the lessons from 500 episodes – what consistency has really cost me, what it's changed in me, and what it's given me. I'm also sharing something very hard for me to say out loud: what's coming next. Here's what we cover: Why consistency builds a body of work before it creates a result Your voice isn't something you find; it's something you develop Why you're never going to feel ready, and what to do instead How the work itself changes you from the inside out Why repetition isn't a weakness, it's actually needed The importance of letting yourself evolve publicly and proudly Why your podcast, your blog, your content is an archive of your own becoming How to be devoted to your dreams while staying detached from the outcome Why the more you create, the less precious you become How consistency teaches you to deal with criticism Why creativity lives in the living, not in sitting at home trying to figure out what to say Why the real reward isn't the number, but the woman you become by reaching it What it means when your truest essence asks for a new expression What's next after 500 episodes Did you enjoy this episode? Subscribe to the podcast and leave a 5-star review! You can also listen to this show on YouTube and on all your favorite podcast platforms. How to Connect with Tonya Leigh Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tonyaleighofficial/ Pinterest: https://ph.pinterest.com/tonyaofficial/ Twitter: https://x.com/tonyaleigh YouTube: https://schoolofselfimage.com/yt-tl #schoolofselfimage #becomeunrecognizable #selfimagetransformation

Welcome to Poolside Confessions, my summer series where I sit by the water, slow down, and share what I'm actually living and thinking about. Last year, I felt a very particular kind of tiredness. Not physical. Emotional fatigue paired with restlessness, and I couldn't figure out why. Was it my hormones? The time of year? What I discovered was something else entirely: I was tired of performing. I don't think of myself as a performer. I live close to my values. I know who I am. And even still, I had been performing. In this episode, I share what I found when I got honest with myself – and why breaking up with your own success strategies might be the most important thing you do this year. Here's what we cover: What success strategies are – and why even your best ones expire Why the things that carried you this far might not take you all the way The moment you realize you're at a three, not a ten Why it's harder to let go of what's working than what isn't The question that cuts through everything Why the fatigue you're feeling has nothing to do with supplements What it actually means to be fully alive Did you enjoy this episode? Subscribe to the podcast and leave a 5-star review! You can also listen to this show on YouTube and on all your favorite podcast platforms. How to Connect with Tonya Leigh Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tonyaleighofficial/ Pinterest: https://ph.pinterest.com/tonyaofficial/ Twitter: https://x.com/tonyaleigh YouTube: https://schoolofselfimage.com/yt-tl #poolsideconfessions #becomeunrecognizable #selfimagetransformation

Welcome to Poolside Confessions, my summer series where I sit by the water, slow down, and share what I'm actually living and thinking about. Today's confession is something I've been sitting with for a while. I started thinking about the seasons of my life when anxiety showed up the loudest. Some of those seasons made sense from the outside – things were hard. But others were confusing. Things were going well. Success was real. And the anxiety was still there. Sitting with all of it, something became clear: anxiety is never really about what's happening outside of you. So what is it about? In this episode, I share what I've come to understand – and the practice that has quietly shifted how I live. Here's what we cover: Why anxiety is never about your circumstances What always accompanied my most anxious seasons – and why I didn't see it at the time How broken promises to yourself create low-grade anxiety you can't quite name What happens when you stop trusting your intuition Why the scary stories you tell yourself about the future are working against you The practices that have built real self-trust in my life Did you enjoy this episode? Subscribe to the podcast and leave a 5-star review! You can also listen to this show on YouTube and on all your favorite podcast platforms. How to Connect with Tonya Leigh Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tonyaleigh Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TonyaLeighOfficial/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tonyaleighofficial/ Pinterest: https://ph.pinterest.com/tonyaofficial/ Twitter: https://x.com/tonyaleigh YouTube: https://schoolofselfimage.com/yt-tl #poolsideconfessions #becomeunrecognizable #selfimagetransformation