FERAL: How to Stop Playing Small and Start Living Free with Avril Millar | 447
This Is Woman's Work with Nicole KalilShow Notes
Women are taught to be agreeable, accommodating, self-sacrificing, and well-behaved. To stay quiet, make everyone comfortable, and take up as little space as possible.
Yeah, no thanks.
What if the goal isn't to become a better-behaved woman, but to reclaim who we were before the world taught us to shrink?
Avril Millar, author of Feral: A Grown Woman's Guide to a Free and Ferocious Life, joins Nicole Kalil to challenge societal expectations keeping women small. After five careers, losing everything in her 40s, and starting over at 50, Avril is now 74 and has plenty to say about confidence, self-love, reinvention, and refusing to be tamed.
We explore:
What it means to be feral and reclaim your authentic self
How societal conditioning teaches women to be agreeable and self-sacrificing
Why midlife and menopause can be opportunities for reinvention
How to recognize the expectations and "shoulds" holding us back
Why trusting your intuition starts with learning to pause
How to stop worrying about what other people think
Why self-awareness is essential to confidence and personal growth
How to build a healthier relationship with yourself and practice unconditional self-love
What Avril has learned about resilience, starting over, and embracing life at 74
Being feral isn't about being reckless or selfish. It's about questioning the rules we've been following, trusting ourselves, and deciding which expectations no longer deserve our obedience.
Perhaps the most important relationship we'll ever have is the one we have with ourselves. So it's time to stop becoming who everyone else needs us to be and start embracing who we actually are.
We were never meant to become less of ourselves. We were meant to become more.
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Connect with Avril:
Website: https://www.avrilmillar.com
Book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/stores/Avril-Millar/author/B00DCLLFUS
LI: https://www.linkedin.com/in/avrilmillar
IG: https://www.instagram.com/avrilmillar/
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