How to Have Deeper Conversations in English: Ask Better Questions
The Speak Confident English PodcastShow Notes
Think of someone you'd like to know better. Maybe a neighbor, or another parent at your child's school. You've talked a few times, but the conversation never goes past simple facts. In this lesson, you'll learn how to ask better questions in English so your conversations can go deeper. You'll learn how to listen for one detail and use it to form your next question. You'll learn what makes a question better when you want to know someone. You'll also get phrases like "I remember you said..." to return to a topic the next time you talk, and simple ways to ask without putting pressure on anyone. At the end, I'll guide you to form one follow-up question for a real person in your life, so you can use this lesson right away. Get my free training, Say What You Want in English: https://www.speakconfidentenglish.com/say-what-you-want-in-english/ Full written lesson: https://www.speakconfidentenglish.com/deeper-conversations-in-english One better question can lead to a deeper conversation. And over time, it can help a friendship grow.
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