Love Uncensored: The Modern Guide to Dating & Relationships

How My Upbringing Affected My Love Life

Love Uncensored: The Modern Guide to Dating & Relationships

Show Notes

This week your host Nicole Colantoni is back with the last SOLO episode of the season and it just so happens to be her most raw and revealing one yet. Make sure to listen all the way to the end because it is jam-packed with life-changing updates not only about what’s to come in season 5 but also about her relationship now that she lives with her partner and they're about to become parents to a baby boy. Nicole also lets you in on a story about the person who inspired the birth of Single at Thirty that will make you realise why you should never question your self-worth irrespective of how bad anyone ever treats you. Lastly Nicole shares all the different ways her upbringing impacted her love life and why yours would have too in ways you simply can’t imagine. Tune in for the last Sunday Dating Scaries episode this Sunday at 5pm AEST. FIND ME: IG: @Single_at_Thirty W: singleatthirty.com JOIN: Join the Single at Thirty private Facebook group and workshop any love, life, or relationship dilemmas you are experiencing with like-minded Modern Women. https://www.facebook.com/groups/231424128600095 SIGN UP: For the first time ever Single at Thirty will be hosting an online workshop “Why Attracting Healthy Love Starts With You" which will be held by dating expert and host of the Single at Thirty podcast Nicole Colantoni as well as Psychologist Rachael Torcasio. Sign up to the Single at Thirty private Facebook group for the first dibs to the event. https://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register/tZAvcOCoqDMjH9289KwglRXwP_Re24PW55pz?fbclid=IwAR1iW1doNW_PKkH0GYtlkAkF05hFv4bg1BJAhTFyOsAn9rIZ3sH6XzTE5ME BOOK IN: Want to level up your love life? Book in a 1:1 with Nicole here: https://www.nicolecolantoni.com/contact See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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