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Reclaiming Pleasure and Intimacy: A Conversation with Kayla Moore In this episode, Kayla Moore, a certified sex therapist and pleasure coach, discusses her journey and mission to help women and couples reclaim sex, intimacy, and embodiment as sacred and life-giving parts of their lives. Kayla shares insights from her upbringing influenced by strong female role models, her transformation from traditional psychology to becoming a sex therapist, and her shift towards integrating spirituality and sacred feminine healing into her practice. She highlights the importance of understanding and dismantling patriarchal narratives around sexuality, the necessity of addressing systemic issues, and fostering genuine connections. Kayla also talks about the significance of pleasure in various forms, the impact of pornography on sexual expectations, and the vital role of communication and consent in relationships. This episode is a profound exploration of human connection, vulnerability, and the pursuit of authentic pleasure. 00:00 Introduction to Kayla Moore 01:02 Kayla's Upbringing and Spiritual Journey 07:02 Transition from Therapy to Pleasure Coaching 08:20 Challenges in the Therapy Profession 14:31 Embracing the Sacred Feminine 15:20 The Role of Priestesses in Ancient and Modern Times 21:53 Healing the Divine Masculine and Feminine 29:23 Reclaiming Sexuality and Pleasure 32:42 Addressing Intimacy in Long-Term Relationships 33:37 Redefining Sex and Pleasure 46:57 The Quick and Hurried Nature of Male Self-Exploration 47:28 The Importance of Self-Pleasure and Communication 47:55 Debunking Myths About Self-Pleasure in Relationships 48:47 Slowing Down and Exploring the Body 51:48 The Fear of Receiving and Building Trust 55:24 The Role of Consent and Communication in Long-Term Relationships 59:35 Addressing Pornography and Its Impact on Expectations 01:07:24 Finding Pleasure in Everyday Life 01:15:55 The Power of Love and Connection Please take the chance to join the waitlist for Kayla's Sacred Desire course: When you sign up for the waitlist you get Kayla's FREE Sacred Body Workbook: A Guide to Healing Body Image and Experiencing Pleasure and you'll also get a FREE 45 minute Desire Discovery Call with Kayla before needing to commit and put a deposit down to solidify their spot in the circle. Here is the link to the waitlist sign up page. https://connected-pleasure-coaching.kit.com/sacreddesire https://connectedpleasurecoaching.com/ https://instagram.com/connectedpleasurecoaching
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