Why Don't I Feel Horny? How to get your sex drive back - Libido, Arousal, Hormones & Relationships

Why don't I feel horny anymore?

And is there actually anything you can do to get your sex drive back?

In this episode of Come Curious, Florence and Reed dive into the surprisingly complicated world of libido, low sex drive and sexual desire - and why feeling less horny doesn't necessarily mean there's something wrong with you.

From hormones and medication to stress, relationships, parenthood and mental health, we unpack the many reasons your libido can change throughout your life.

We get into:

- Why around 1 in 4 couples experience mismatched libidos

- How antidepressants, hormonal birth control and other medications can affect desire

- How stress, exhaustion, mental load, body image and emotional safety can put the brakes on sex

- Why pregnancy, breastfeeding and parenthood can dramatically change your sex drive

- How trauma, shame, upbringing and neurodivergence can influence desire

- Why asexuality isn't the same thing as having no interest in pleasure or masturbation

- Why you don't always have to wait until you're spontaneously horny to start exploring desire

And we finish with our four-step toolkit for getting your sex drive back: from identifying what's actually killing your libido to rebuilding your erotic world and making sex easier to want.

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