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Send us Fan Mail Have you ever watched someone’s opinion of you completely change the moment you stopped being agreeable? You were respected when you were useful. Supported when you were compliant. Easy to work with when you didn’t question them. Then you set a boundary, said no, asked an uncomfortable question, or stopped giving them what they wanted, and suddenly you became the problem. In this episode of Pattern Breakers Collective, Lisa explores what happens when a fragile ego, covert nar...
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