Why You Can't Tell People How You Feel (And How It's Costing You)
No Guilt Mom | Overcoming Mom Guilt, Mental Load & Parenting Tips for MomsShow Notes
New here? Start with our Start Here playlist — five episodes that will change how you think about motherhood.
If you're a people pleaser who can't figure out why you struggle to tell people how you really feel, especially when you're angry or hurt, this episode is for you.
What do you do when someone you love blames you for something that isn't your fault? JoAnn gets vulnerable about a recent conflict where, for the first time in her life, she didn't shrink. She's breaking down the fawn response, what the research actually says about staying quiet, and the exact words to use the next time silence feels safer than the truth.
In this episode, you'll learn:
Why the fawn response makes staying silent feel safer, even when it isn't
What research on suppressed feelings actually predicts for your relationships (it's not what you'd guess)
The difference between suppressing a feeling and simply choosing when to say it
A 3-step script for naming what's bothering you without picking a fight
Why setting a boundary and staying in a relationship are not opposites
Resources mentioned in this episode:
JoAnn's previous episode on what her former friendships taught her: Why Mom Friendships Feel So One-Sided
The Body Keeps the Score
The Happy Mom Reset, JoAnn's free class
Ready to figure out where your guilt and people pleasing are running the show in your home? Join the free Happy Mom Reset class. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
More from No Guilt Mom | Overcoming Mom Guilt, Mental Load & Parenting Tips for Moms
If you've ever felt the weight of the mental load and wondered why you keep doing everything yourself, even when you're exhausted, this episode is for you.
If you've ever felt the weight of the mental load and wondered why you're the only one who notices what needs to be done around the house, this episode is for you.
If you've ever felt mom guilt after yelling and wondered why you yell at the same time every day, this episode is for you.
New here? Start with our Start Here playlist, five episodes that will change how you think about motherhood.
If you've ever struggled with mom guilt and wondered why you're so hard on yourself as a mom, this episode is for you.