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You can find the New Normal Charity @tnncharity on Instagram. Website: https://www.thenewnormalcharity.org/ Ben also coaches men on developing empathy and changing the way they think, behave and react both in work and life. You can find him on Instagram @ldn_brbr or email [email protected] Please follow me on Instagram or TikTok @beahappierparent. Full videos of the episodes are available on YouTube @alexindadland Keywords grief, trauma, identity, loss, support, relationships, parenthood, mental health, healing, self-discovery Summary In this conversation, Alex Trippier and Ben discuss the complexities of grief, trauma, and identity. They explore how personal experiences shape our understanding of loss and the importance of shared experiences in healing. Ben shares his journey through grief after losing his father and how it impacted his relationships and behavior. They also touch on the gendered responses to grief and the societal expectations placed on men. The discussion emphasizes the need for open communication and support in navigating grief and the ongoing journey of self-discovery and change. Takeaways Grief is a unique experience for everyone.Time does not erase the pain of loss.Shared experiences can foster connection and understanding.Men often struggle to express their emotions.Parenthood can change one's perspective on grief.Trauma can shape our identities and behaviors.It's important to seek support during difficult times.Understanding different types of loss is crucial.Communication is key in relationships affected by grief.Self-discovery is an ongoing journey influenced by our past. Titles Navigating the Complexities of GriefThe Impact of Trauma on Identity Sound bites "I just want to feel normal again.""Grief is a confusing thing.""Men don't speak about things." Chapters 00:00 Understanding Grief and the New Normal37:30 The Scotch Egg Theory of Grief46:12 The Complexity of Loss and Relationships49:11 Gender Differences in Grief Responses51:01 The Journey of Self-Discovery in Fatherhood56:35 Understanding Addiction and Masculinity01:01:19 Parenting and Personal Growth
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