Show Notes
If you go from zero to volcano in conflict, and then drown in shame afterwards, this one’s for you. I’m sharing my own story of going boom in my relationship, why years of self-abandonment so often end in explosion, how anger becomes armour around something more tender, why our partners can’t be the ones to hold our uncontained anger, and practical ways to build the space between feeling anger and acting it out.
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