Don't Mom Alone Podcast

Understanding Your Teen: What’s Normal and How to Stay Connected *top 10* :: Dr. Nell Bush [Ep 596]

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Show Notes

Dr. Nell Bush is a child development specialist, parenting consultant, and co-author of The Parenting Survival Guide. With a Ph.D. and four children of her own, she combines professional expertise with practical wisdom to help parents understand their children’s unique needs. The preteen and teen years can feel like a whole new world! One minute your child wants you close, and the next they’re pushing you away. In this episode, Nell explores the four pillars of teen development: social, emotional, mental, and physical. From intense emotions and increased sleep to peer pressure and shifting family dynamics, she helps us understand what’s typical and respond with compassion without taking every change personally. Whether you’re raising teens or preparing for what’s ahead, this conversation offers encouragement and practical ways to stay connected. In this episode, we discuss:

The four pillars of development: social, emotional, mental, and physical.

Why teens need so much sleep and how physical changes can affect other areas of development.

The imaginary audience and why teens can feel like everyone is watching them.

Why belonging matters so much and how peer relationships can influence behavior.

How to navigate the push-and-pull of teens wanting independence while still needing their moms.

Why conflict with parents can increase during adolescence and how to avoid taking it personally.

How to talk about weight, body image, and physical changes with care.

The importance of keeping all four pillars balanced and recognizing where your teen may need extra support.

Why every child is different and why parenting teens requires us to stay engaged, flexible, and intentional.

Links Mentioned:

Handout from Dr. Bush

Masterminds and Wingmen by Rosalind Wiseman

Queen Bees and Wannabes by Rosalind Wiseman

Birds and Bees

Parenting Survival Guide, By Dr Nell Bush and Dr. Brad Schwall

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