The Journey Together

Finding Connection in Life and Loss

The Journey Together

Show Notes

Tara Rafter’s Tools and Insights for the Palliative Journey In this special episode, our usual host Tara Rafter becomes the guest, joined by North West Hospice Charity Manager Olive McTague. Tara, an award-winning life coach and master NLP practitioner, shares practical tools, personal experiences, and emotional insights for navigating uncertainty, grief, and the palliative care journey. With gentle humour and grounded wisdom, Tara speaks about coping with difficult diagnoses, the role of presence, the power of micro-moments, and how small rituals can help us stay connected — to ourselves and those we love. Whether you’re supporting someone, grieving, or preparing for difficult conversations, this episode offers meaningful support and compassionate guidance. Discover The Journey Together, a podcast by North West Hospice Charity. Hear advice, personal stories, guidance and emotional support for patients, families, and caregivers navigating palliative care.

“Your legacy doesn’t have to be huge. It can be in the tiniest little things. Sometimes the legacy is the sound of somebody’s laughter… the smell of someone’s aftershave. There are things that linger with us from the humans we were lucky enough to meet—that we’ll never forget.” “People often said, ‘You’re so strong’—but I didn’t feel strong. I felt like a big helpless mess. And what I’ve learned is that strength isn’t holding it all together—it’s actually allowing yourself to fall apart… and still show up.”

Guest: Tara Rafter, The Navigation Coach Host: Olive McTague Episode Sponsor: ⁠Brian Pennie⁠ Show music: #mobygratis @mobygratis This podcast is produced by ⁠⁠Verver⁠⁠

by ⁠⁠⁠⁠North West Hospice Charity⁠⁠

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