
Show Notes
What identity loss look like for high achiever mums?
Is “having it all” a modern myth?
How Human Design can help you find your truth and explode your self-confidence?
If you are curious to find answers to that, this episode is for you!
In today’s episode I speak to Nette Hargreaves, a Human Design Guide and a mum to Lilly who shares her motherhood identity shift story and how Human Design has empowered her to reclaim herself with confidence and guilt-free boundaries in life.
Nette is passionate about empowering women to be the feminine leaders of their families and communities. Her mission to make human design fun and accessible so that you can walk away with tangible tools to help you live a richly fulfilled life as the heroine of your own story.
Topics covered in this episode:
Transition into motherhood and identity loss
How our definition of success has changed since becoming mums
Challenging societal norms around “Having it all”, and being a “good mom”
The importance of self-worth in finding yourself back
What is Human Design & what it can help you discover about yourself
Human Design types explained. Which one are you?
The power of Human Design in claiming confident boundaries with grace and without a guilt
In the first part of this interview (35min) Nette shares her identity loss journey, and we challenge unhelpful social norms around motherhood.
In the second part of this interview Nette puts her Human Design Guide hat on and shares with you what Human Design is about and how you can use it as a wonderful tool to discover your personal magic and claim your inner fire back!
I LOVE human design! And I love how much validation, grounding and confidence it has given me in my postpartum identity shift journey.
Enjoy!
To learn more about Nette and get her Human Design tips and resources click the links below:
Instagram @empoweredhumandesign
Website: www.empoweredhumandesign.com
About your Host: Gosia Scarrott is a Business and Confidence Coach and a new mum to Olivia. She is passionate about empowering women to see and believe their worth so they can bring their unique fire to the world and Shine!
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