
Show Notes
Do you ever feel like you're dating the same person in a different body, repeating the same painful relationship patterns over and over? Many of us search for a love that completes us, only to find we've lost ourselves in the process. This cycle of relating is more common than you think, and it has a name: love addiction. That is what today's guest, Jodi White, is here to unpack. Jodi is a licensed therapist, coach, and podcaster specializing in codependence and love addiction. Drawing on her professional training and her personal recovery after a 25-year struggle, she helps clients heal relationship patterns rooted in childhood trauma and cultural conditioning. For both Jay and Jodi, a huge "Hey, Wait" moment was the realization that these patterns weren't about love, but about a process addiction. It's an addiction to seeking the safety and validation externally that we needed to develop internally. Understanding this is a powerful first step toward breaking the cycle and building a fulfilling relationship with yourself and others. In this episode, Jodi talks about: ► The difference between codependence and love addiction. ► The three core symptoms of a love addict. ► How cultural messages and childhood experiences create these patterns. ► What the recovery process looks like and how to start healing. To learn more about Jodi White, visit her website or listen to her podcast, Journals of a Love Addict. Connect with Jodi White: ► Official Website: https://www.jodiwhiteonline.com/ ► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jodiwhite_ ► Podcast: Journals of a Love Addict
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